Ctrygirl's recent post and my response got me thinking about the grieving process. We all experience grief at some time in our lives. Each of us grieves differently - there are no set rules, no handbook for grieving.
My son passed almost 7 years ago - it was without question the most difficult experience in my life. I am still trying to come to grips with it. My life has been changed forever.
As most of you know, there are five stages of grief. A Dr. Elisabeth Kubler came up with the formula almost 40 years ago. They are: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and finally, acceptance. Some of us experience all the stages, others may experience but a few. There's no set rule when it comes to grieving.
We grieve over lots of different things, not just death. We bipolars grieve our illness as well - and until we get to acceptance, out lives can remain in turmoil. Some of us stay in denial (I did for a long time). Others get to anger and cannot get beyond it (I had trouble expressing anger). It's taken me 7 years, but acceptance has finally come for me.
Bipolars are extremely vulnerable when they must face grief. In my case, my grieving and my illness went on a collision course. That's probably why it took me so long to accept my loss. I went thru some very tough times with my illness and my grief.
Enough for now - just wanted to share some of my grieving experience. Part of my healing, I've learned, is sharing a bit of it with others. Thank you.