After not speaking to me for 2 days and not having anything nice to say for a few more what can he expect of me? I have shut down...again. I am a very strong person and have lived with a husband with BP/ADHD for 12+ years. It wasn't until my oldest son showed symptoms of ADHD at age 2 that I realized my husband has this condition. My son is now 7 and the condition in my husband is progressing. I want to communicate, but I don't know what else to say. What I have said recently wasn't very nice and in short condemning him for something that is no fault of his. It was terrible of me, but what can you do when a BP person is in denial most days? He has been aware of it in the past, but refuses to do anything about it and denies it when it's convenient for him. Although he tried medication a year ago when officially diagnosed it was only because I wanted him to. Now he says he's done that, he's not willing to do it again. OK, so can couseling help? Of course it will, which is why I'm going in June. His perception of any counselor, psychlogist...etc. is that they are "paid friends." A counselor once told me I have to be willing to let him walk away. I feel like I am at that point, but in his eyes it is all my fault. He thinks I can't stand him. More and more I am feeling that way. I am so sad about the loss of love in our relationship because of this illness. Not to mention the stressed relationships with the kids. He slept in another room last night. He keeps coming back and trying to tell me I need to compromise and it's me that doesn't care because he is the one coming to me to talk. What else can I say? I need him to do one thing...seek treatment. Otherwise, I cannot take it anymore. He is completely unreasonable. I fear for my own health if I continue to live with this stress. I am feeling so hopeless right now and their doesn't seem to be any answer. Whether anyone is listening, just putting this down is helpful. I want to scream at the top of my lungs for help with this situation. I just don't think anyone can help.