When as a parent do we stick our noses in or keep them out of our child dating scene? This would depend on how old they are. If they are 18 or older, you don’t have much to say and all you can do at this point is waiting for your child to ask for advice and not have it given before hand.

For a child under 18…we has parents are suppose to set the rules and boundaries which includes dating. Most of us can remember those years of our first crush, hormones all over the place and thinking we knew everything and our parents were clueless. I think it is very important to have dating boundaries and have them developed between both parents so there is consistency prior to allowing the child to date.

I can remember a few of my daughters aka boyfriends that she would bring home when she was 17 that would make my hair stand on end. I found the more I dislike the boyfriend the more involved the relationship got. So seeing this…if it was a guy that I saw no future I would befriend him, talk non-stop to my daughter of what a great guy he was and it would **** her off so much she would dump him.

Now she is 23 and I keep my nose out until she comes to me looking for advice. I find that most of the time she already knows the answer so I just keep quiet and listen. I do give her my take on it afterwards and the usual fatherly advice.

My son that is 25 and married with one child is married to the daughter in law from hell. Drama all the time stirs the pot with everyone and sits back at laughs as she watches each other fight from repeating and adding crap all the time. My stance is and has been hands off. I tried to treat her as a daughter instead of a daughter in law with no real fatherly figure in the life and just became fed-up with the total disrespect she had shown to everyone.

I keep my nose out of it because I know if I want to be able to see my grand daughter when ever I want…I need to stay on somewhat good terms with her. I’m not sure what your circumstance is and how old the child is that seems to be an issue.

The only time I feel I would step into either of their relationships at this point would be because of abuse to each other or their children. I draw the line in the sand there and both my kids know it no matter how old they get.