Hubby left me two months ago. Hasn't given me any money towards bills nor seems concerned about me or my girls. Saw him yesterday and he was crying and depressed, only talking about himself the whole time. Meanwhile we are losing the house, I am losing my car, and suffering. I endured his verbal/emot...
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Been There Too . . .
jennij
Sunday, August 31, 2008 at 12:19 PM
I can relate to what you're feeling. After 15 years of trying to help my ex "get better" and dealing with the physical, emotional & mental abuse (and his denial of ANYTHING being wrong) I had to leave for the sake of our four children.
After 18 months of trying to support our children and pay bills without his help, I had to file contempt charges. We lost our house on Christmas Eve 2003. My biggest word of caution is to not fall for empty promises. The court processes are painfully slow, the longer you wait to take action, the longer you will struggle. An experienced attorney will help, but that can seem impossible when money is tight.
It's been one nightmare after another and all I wanted was out. Try to stay strong for your children, I know that's easier said than done. This is very hard on the children, their healing will take a long time as will yours. Do not allow him to make you feel guilty. Seek all the support you can get - family, YWCA, local advocate groups, churches, anything. You will need it and it will help you stay strong.
My heart goes out to you. May God be with you every moment during this trying time.
I can relate to what you're feeling. After 15 years of trying to help my ex "get better" and dealing with the physical, emotional & mental abuse (and his denial of ANYTHING being wrong) I had to leave for the sake of our four children.
After 18 months of trying to support our children and pay bills without his help, I had to file contempt charges. We lost our house on Christmas Eve 2003. My biggest word of caution is to not fall for empty promises. The court processes are painfully slow, the longer you wait to take action, the longer you will struggle. An experienced attorney will help, but that can seem impossible when money is tight.
It's been one nightmare after another and all I wanted was out. Try to stay strong for your children, I know that's easier said than done. This is very hard on the children, their healing will take a long time as will yours. Do not allow him to make you feel guilty. Seek all the support you can get - family, YWCA, local advocate groups, churches, anything. You will need it and it will help you stay strong.
My heart goes out to you. May God be with you every moment during this trying time.