Can guilt and anxiety really cause this much physical pain?

Karri28 Community Member August 14, 2009
  • I have this cold hard lump of pain in my stomach and have for about three weeks now. It started before going to see my family. I actually delayed my trip by a day due to waking up in the middle of the night due to my stomach being in so much pain. We thought I was having a gall bladder attack. But it would calm and then get worse everytime my anxiety levels increased.

     

    I know I have to decrease the amount of interactions I have with my family, I came to this conclusion when I was visiting. They just aren't healthy for me. But the thought of doing so sends stabs of guilt through my already hurting stomach. I don't know what to do. If the feeling gets worse I may go have my stomach checked out, just in case it isn't anxiety. But I'm pretty sure it is, so maybe I should try to see my psych doc?

     

    My therapist told me that with these feelings of guilt I need to ask myself 'what crime have I commited to make myself feel guilty?'. The answer is none, none of it is a crime, I'm not doing anything wrong. But I can't seem to convince my stomach of that, which I guess means that I'm not really convincing myself of it either. Though it makes perfect sense.

5 Comments
  • HeyJude
    Oct. 27, 2014

    Hope you have resolved these issues.  It is possible to stay well connected with family without visiting often.  Good physical & mental health matter the most.  Everything else is secondary.

     

    As for your tummy, you might try a few natural remedies.  Ginger or peppermint tea, also lemon water or yogurt can offer some relief.  See...

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    Hope you have resolved these issues.  It is possible to stay well connected with family without visiting often.  Good physical & mental health matter the most.  Everything else is secondary.

     

    As for your tummy, you might try a few natural remedies.  Ginger or peppermint tea, also lemon water or yogurt can offer some relief.  See your physician to rule out anything more serious.

  • MadeleineAsh
    Oct. 27, 2014

    Worrying and anxiety- which can be caused by feelings of guilt or shame- can disrupt stomach acid and actually wear away the lining of the stomach, causing ulcers, which can lead to infections and be life threatening. You might seriously want to see your doctor first, and check for ulcers. Also, see if you can be prescribed an anti-anxiety medication. Then,...

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    Worrying and anxiety- which can be caused by feelings of guilt or shame- can disrupt stomach acid and actually wear away the lining of the stomach, causing ulcers, which can lead to infections and be life threatening. You might seriously want to see your doctor first, and check for ulcers. Also, see if you can be prescribed an anti-anxiety medication. Then, see about seeing a therapist to work out your anxiety within yourself. 

  • Shelly
    May. 30, 2010

    Karri~

    I can tell  based on you having young girls that you must be still fairly young yourself. I'm going to tell you a bit about me in the hopes that it will help you.

     

    I'm 49. It's taken me until this last major depression after a few years of hypomania to get properly diagnosed with bp. I've had a mental illness based on the symptoms that I've...

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    Karri~

    I can tell  based on you having young girls that you must be still fairly young yourself. I'm going to tell you a bit about me in the hopes that it will help you.

     

    I'm 49. It's taken me until this last major depression after a few years of hypomania to get properly diagnosed with bp. I've had a mental illness based on the symptoms that I've read about and what I've experienced in my lifetime pretty much all my life. I know for sure that I started in with the differing thoughts when I was about 8. I know that the major depression began the end of my senior year in hs. Every 10 years since then I've had a major crash. This is only the 2nd time that I've gotten medical help. I'm older and wiser enough to realize that I WANT to live my life as healthily as possible. I will take whatever steps necessary.

    One of the things that I've come to realize with intensive therapy the past 2 years is that I'm a people pleaser to the max. I suffer from abandonment/loss issues. I will do anything to avoid hurting others, and in the process I've hurt myself to the point of wanting to dissappear. Those hurts come in the form of extreme mental anguish that manifests itself in physical symptoms. I knew as a teenager that when my stomach hurt, it was really easy to get rid of the problem by throwing up. That started years of bulemia. It didn't deal with the underlying problems of why my stomach hurt. It was where the anxiety manifested itself. I am getting smarter to connect the symptoms...

     

    During college I experimented with alcohol for the first time...for someone with strong alcoholism in her geneology, it created lots of havoc. Many times I've had to just stop for many periods of time because of the depressive nature of alcohol. Doesn't bode well for an already depressed person. I know it would  be best if I just never had alcohol. I'm not yet willing to give it up.

     

    I learned how to breathe and biofeedback my way through anxiety producing situations. I got out of myself and became a very outgoing person involved in many wonderful endeavors.

     

    I found out how nutrition affects how I feel. What different supplements do for me. I also learned which substances to avoid...legal drugs I like to call them.

     

    Last October, I was officially diagnosed with BP because none of those things that I learned or was doing to cope helped anymore.

     

    Then the real healing began.

     

    So much of what we feel and experience that contributes to our mental illness is wrapped up in our genetics, predisposition to certain physical weaknesses, the environment we grew up in...our heritage.

     

    I found out that my family of origin had lots of disfunction. There were times where I've had to severely limit contact with them because I was not strong enough to deal. I've gone through the whole guilt gamut. The 'love' gamut. The learned behaviors. The thought processes. As I get a stronger sense of self and who God created ME to be, I am becoming that person. I am now able to relate to my family in a much healthier way. I've put up boundaries. My brain barrier is getting stronger. I don't absorb so much of other people's stuff. I am able to give some pretty good advice at times. I have fun with my family again. Despite all the disfunction, we were a good family who did alot of really neat things together.

     

    Because of how I am, how I grew up, the personality, gifts, strengths, weaknesses I have...I am a wonderful wife, mom, grandmom, daughter, sister, friend, acquaintance and child of God.

     

    I hope this helps you to know that it's ok...ok to be apart for a time. Learn about those triggers. Learn what happens within your body. You have only one you. Learn all about Karri!

     

     

  • Anonymous
    tabby
    Aug. 14, 2009

    stress, anxiety, anger, depression can and often do present themselves OR manifest themselves in physical symptoms if they go on too long

     

    unresolved trauma or issues will also

     

    still, it may be a good idea to have a MD check it out

    it could be a ulcer that is aggravated by the stress and anxiety

     

    or it could be something else that is also...

    RHMLucky777

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    stress, anxiety, anger, depression can and often do present themselves OR manifest themselves in physical symptoms if they go on too long

     

    unresolved trauma or issues will also

     

    still, it may be a good idea to have a MD check it out

    it could be a ulcer that is aggravated by the stress and anxiety

     

    or it could be something else that is also aggravated by stress and anxiety

     

     

    • Karri28
      Aug. 16, 2009

      Thank you for the response. I've been to my therapist and started really monitoring when my stomach would hurt. It only hurts when I'm getting upset or anxious. I've been working on trying to relax more and "let go and let God", which is a whole lot harder than it sounds!