I was married to my ex husband for 17 years when last August he sent me a Dear Jane letter via e-mail telling me that he was leaving to find happiness. Suspecting that "happiness" was yet ANOTHER affair ( six that I know of), I hired a private dectective and proved myself right! He is now living with his "happiness" and her four kids,planning to get married as soon as our divorce is final. Here's the kick in the story, this woman is everything that he loathed in life and in a woman in general. She is from the "other side of the tracks" low life, of low moral character and a basic all around sleeze bag. By all accounts, he is living in the 1980's. I know this because he documents his life on Myspace daily. He believes he is still 25 and in the Marine Corp ( his actual age is 49).My question is, is this a product of his bipolar condition? The way he is living his life goes against everything that he believed in.Is he trying to prove something to himself or to the world?
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My perception and 2.5 cents, and it's all that it is.
My husband isn't and hasn't been diagnosed with any type of mental illness though he'd come close to having Narcisstic Personality Disorder if diagnosed.
He is also 49, soon to be 50 (next month). He has been with several different women over the last 9 years and for the last year and a half has been with a woman who is the complete opposite of what he has always said he wanted.
I have Bipolar. I've never cheated on my husband. I've never thought of cheating on my husband nor acted on any of my impulses or desires with any other while married to my husband, living with him as man and wife. NEVER. I know it's wrong.
I won't say it's been terriably easy cause it hasn't.. my husband abused me over the years and has cheated on me many many times. Due to this I'm in the final processes of divorcing him myself. Yet, I knew to cheat would be wrong and I never did.
So... I wouldn't necessarily attribute your husband's entire behavior solely on Bipolar.
Would having Bipolar make things perhaps worse? Quite possibly but is the entire thing and all his other affairs solely due to Bipolar? No.
There are some men who see themselves getting older, middle spreading, hair receding, pants with elastic coming at them, and they freak out and start buying sports cars - picking up GFs almost young enough to be illegal (and some don't care if it's illegal) - and spending money out the whazoo. All in the effort to regain some sense of male stamina and youth before all falls and withers.
Perhaps I didn't clarify things, yes he has been diagnosed bipolar. He has been on numerous meds and refuses to admit when they fail to work. In any event, he is not my problem anymore!