bipolar disease is like the devil

rebecca Community Member September 29, 2010
  • hi my name is rebecca ive been with a man that is very bipolar for 4yrs and he wont take any medication because he says it wont help him that he dont need help and we have a one year old daughter together and i have a four year old and he hits me kicks me slams my head into everthing and he destroys my stuff threatens to kill me and my kids and he does all of this in front of them. well i left him but im having to stay at his mama until i can get my own place and hes trying to kill me i am really afraid that hes not going to stop until he does because when he flips hes a totally diffrent person its like a demond jumps into his body and hes out of control. i really dont know what to do? if there is anybody that as any advice please feel free to give it because i really need it.

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  • Tabby
    Sep. 29, 2010

    I've read your response to the other replier... you fear for your safety, your kids safety, and even other folks safety... and yet you love him so much.

     

    So... you love him more than yourself, your kids, and other people.

     

    In that you love him so much.. till death, I think you typed then he is your priority, your entire world, cause he is more important...

    RHMLucky777

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    I've read your response to the other replier... you fear for your safety, your kids safety, and even other folks safety... and yet you love him so much.

     

    So... you love him more than yourself, your kids, and other people.

     

    In that you love him so much.. till death, I think you typed then he is your priority, your entire world, cause he is more important than yourself, your kids, and other people. 

     

    He is one lucky guy!

  • Mermaid07
    Sep. 29, 2010

    Hello,

     

    I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I don't know if I have any real good advice for you. I'm gonig through a very similar situation..and I still have not figured out what I am going to do. Although, I am leaning towards either letting him go through his cycle, alone. Or contacting a mental health agency to come and evaluate him....

    RHMLucky777

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    Hello,

     

    I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I don't know if I have any real good advice for you. I'm gonig through a very similar situation..and I still have not figured out what I am going to do. Although, I am leaning towards either letting him go through his cycle, alone. Or contacting a mental health agency to come and evaluate him. But, I realize the risk in contacting an agency...my husband will hate me (at least for now). He will resent me, he will call me horrible names...tell me that he doesnt want me anymore, etc. But I've got to make a choice. Am I strong enough to help my husband..even if he will hate me for it. I dont know the answer to that yet. I don't know if reading this has helped any. Feel free to contact me if you need to. God Bless.

    • rebecca
      Sep. 29, 2010

      hey well it doesnt matter how strong you are because i love him to death but they have to be willing to help there selfs are it wont do no good trust me i tryed helping him so many times and it was good for a while but then it went right back where we started and i told him he get help and prove to me that hes trying then we could work things out because i...

      RHMLucky777

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      hey well it doesnt matter how strong you are because i love him to death but they have to be willing to help there selfs are it wont do no good trust me i tryed helping him so many times and it was good for a while but then it went right back where we started and i told him he get help and prove to me that hes trying then we could work things out because i care alot about him he means every thing to me i was just tired of having to explain the bruises and my stuff being broke but he says hes not going to do anything about his problem if we are not together so i really dont know what to do because im so afraid that hes going to kill somebody are his self and his daughter loves him so much.

    • Donna-1
      Sep. 29, 2010

      You said he has threatened to stop pursuing help and wellness if you leave him.  Hmmm...to me it sounds like he is not pursuing either even when you ARE with him.  I'm afraid you are caught up in his mood cycles and feel like you can't get off the rollercoaster until he does.  WRONG!  You told him to get help if he wanted you and the kids...

      RHMLucky777

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      You said he has threatened to stop pursuing help and wellness if you leave him.  Hmmm...to me it sounds like he is not pursuing either even when you ARE with him.  I'm afraid you are caught up in his mood cycles and feel like you can't get off the rollercoaster until he does.  WRONG!  You told him to get help if he wanted you and the kids around.  STICK WITH IT.  He may or may not choose to turn his life around with treatment and proper medication(s) but for your own safety and happiness and that of your children, you need to take care of your needs and theirs.  That should be your top concern. 

       

      Some people with mental illness have little or no insight into their illness or the resulting mayhem.  This may be the case with your husband.  Why seek treatment if nothing's wrong (he may be asking himself.)  Or he may not realize how his symptoms and actions based on those symptoms are affecting you and the children and your relationship.

       

      You have already laid down the law and told him to "get help or else."  It sounds like it is time for "or else" to happen.  Find a safe and healthy place for you and the kids and don't let him intrude or move in again until he is on the road to recovery.