I have been told that right now I need to do some "selfing". What does that mean? It's time not to be overwhelmed with everybodies stuff and over focused on being angry at my boyfriend and half the people in the rest of the world. I need to focus on taking care of myself. Hard to do. I have ...
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Yep..
KodyD
Monday, October 13, 2008 at 01:51 PMre: Yep..
Joicie
Tuesday, October 14, 2008 at 12:02 AMThankyou for your feedback kodyD. It's been such a struggle for me. I have a friend who helped me today and is helping me tomorrow, I think. I lot of people have said they would help but never do. Getting overwhelmed and crying about my apt is no fun. Most other people just don't understand. Congratulations to you! And what a terriffc 5 year to help mommy like that. I am very happy for you and hope that you continue to make progress in your recovery. Joicie
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You will get there
Narelle
Wednesday, October 15, 2008 at 12:26 AMI used to have real problems giving myelf time - so much easier to focus on other people than yourself. I now find that it's not about being introspective (I think we all do enough of that), it's about doing little things for yourself. I know cleaning up your apartment is doing something good, but do something you enjoy as well - go to the park or get your nails done, or your hair - doesn't have to cost a lot. And I know (really I do!) how corny and self helpish this sounds (makes me cringe) but in practice it really really does help. By all means get your house clean but do try and do something you enjoy and is just for you!!
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Joicie
Thursday, October 16, 2008 at 12:11 PMI like what you said. It's not all about introspection. I have to admit that I've done alot of that. Sometimes it's so much easier to stay in the house and dwell on my issues, and a certain amount of time is needed for that in an atmosphere that is not chaotic and perhaps in a meditative way. I do need to go out and do things for me.My friend and i went out to the pet store yesterday for food for the animals, birdseed and feeder fish for our numerous turtles. What a delight that was, I was so happy. I thanked her so much.- Joicie
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Narelle
Thursday, October 16, 2008 at 06:24 PMIt's baby steps but it is amazing what little things can bring that warm happy feeling back for a little while. But, sorry to say "but" hehe, that was doing something for your pets, not for you :) As has been said below - make a little list. Nest time your friend comes round go out for a coffee or a walk, or go get your nails done if you have the money - if not, so each others (I find it best to put on a funny DVD and watch that and have a nail doing session!).
Introspection can be harmful to your health when done in excess!! I call it "navel gazing" when it gets ti that point. Its great to "know yourself" but soemtimes it's nice to forget yoruself too and just enjoy.
You sound pretty tuned in, just keep smelling the roses!
N
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Joicie
Thursday, October 16, 2008 at 09:36 PMOkay, you're right. I'll try to think that through better. The animals were happy anyhow-
I have 1 thing on my list of 10 things so far, get my hair cut. It makes me feel good when I have my hair done, and that's indulgeing myself a little and taking care of me too. It boosts your self esteem. Joicie
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Narelle
Thursday, October 16, 2008 at 09:44 PMYou are thinking just fine - go get that haircut, will make you feel good :)
I was just kidding about the animals - is one of them a dog - perhaps go for a walk if you have a dog and get a happy don and some of those endorphins for yourself (get the hait cut first so you lok smashing!!). If no dog, just go and show off the hair somewhere - a friends house or whatever. Now, how about a leg wax??!!!!
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Focusing on "You"
HeyJude
Thursday, October 16, 2008 at 11:00 AMMake a list of just 10 small things that make you happy. Pick one or two each day and INDULGE yourself. You are important and deserve good things in your life, little things can make a BIG difference.
It's important to put ourselves first. Then we can develop better relationships in our lives. Your are given good advice. Good luck working on things.
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Joicie
Thursday, October 16, 2008 at 12:17 PMI will make that list, I need to. There's no danger I'll go overboard indulging myself. You know-I think it's going to take me a little time to do that. I don't see how how I can make out a realistic list in 5 minutes. I think that's going to be a whole day job for me. i intend to try, I want to get out of my rut. Thanks-Joicie
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I did that exact same thing, but i dont get disablility. My Mom helped me. You should have seen my 5yr old home it looked 20yrs old, I let it get so bad in 2yrs it was nasty. Now it is frign spotless like a palace. I left my windows open in the summer trying to fight the utility companies, 9since they rob us anyways0. Well don't ever do that, my house was full of dust and pollen everywhere and living in a clean house with BP is important and having Fresh Clean Air is a must, yiour ac and filters do that. I think we are effected by our enviroment in many ways, so does my Doc, hes cool. I had to call up Mr Clean.
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