I too have been diagnosed 1 year ago. I still did my work but, really didn't care to much. I just do what must be done. More and more with counselling I am getting back to my life.  My therapist says get back to things you used to do. Even if you have to make yourself. Go out walk with your husband. The more understanding you are and gentlely persuasive the better. This disorder is very hard to live with. I wish I could have known at 18 what I found out at 53. It takes a while to recover  from a mic episode, but I can honestly say I am coming out of the fog. My best wishes to you and your family. I know what you are going through.

I am sorry for your situation.  Mine is similar except I am the wife and my husband has bipolar.  One thing you need to remember is that what she says and does is not always what she means.  When she tells you she loves you and needs you she is probably being truthful even though her actions don't show it.  Bipolar is a debilitating disease that can make good people say and do very bad things.  I know my husband loves me and needs me in his life but if I catch him in a manic episode he is verbally abusive and I can't do anything right.  He doesn't mean any of it and it is incredibly hard, sometimes impossible, to remember that and not be hurt and confused by it.  I still haven't been able to figure that part out completely.  There have been many times where I have thrown my hands up in complete desperation and swore I was leaving because you can't win a conversation with a bipolar person who is manic.  They are never wrong and can't see the fault of their own words or reasoning.  My husband often makes no sense when he is manic but you can't tell him that, I am the one who doesn't make sense.  Then when the episode is over he rarely remembers the terrible things he has said and will feel ashamed of what he has done and said.  As I said it can be a really terrible illness that can tear families apart.  My advice to you is to educate yourself with good information on bipolar and find a support group or therapist for yourself and your kids.  The best defense you can have is knowledge.  If you are in this for the long haul remember that it may be a very bumpy ride but if you understand the ride you have more control than if you are just being dragged along behind.  I wish you the best of luck.

gsoto111875

7/ 8/10 10:36pm

Wow, your post really hit home. Thank you for taking time to let me know this, i feel similar sometimes.