Why is it that the person that doesn't have bp always has to cop it??? I am starting to run out of patients. Tonight hubby had a go at me saying I stuffed up his laptop only cause I changed things back to the way he wanted his messenger as he didn't like the new one. Here I am at 10.13pm still sitting here letting his laptop get updates. Whenever his laptop wants heaps of updates it's super slow and here is me getting the blame for it. I do so much for him and he never shows any appreciation, I am so tired of this. I don't know how much of this I can take. I am just so glad that he has gone to bed and is sound asleep. I was ready to scream hearing him go on and on and on and on.
What can I do to keep my sanity??????????????? I am about to loose it. I have had plenty of patients with him but now I am starting to become short tempered which I know will not help him.
Any advise is appreciated.




Why does bp have to be the reason for his behavior or your response of having to cope with it? If he did not have bp, he could very well act the same or it could be somene else you are dealing with that results in your negative emotional reaction.
It seems that in either case you would have to learn to cope. Have you ever tried to understand what may be behind his reasons of being angry or frustrated or your own reasons for your emotional responses? Most of the time you will discover that an individual's reasoning is illogical or has errors, which results in their experience of anger or frustration. Correct the reasoning or cognitve process and you change the emotional response and the behavior. These are the principles behind Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). If you are having difficulty coping with your husbands behavior then maybe both of you would benifit from some counseling sessions with someone experienced with this technique.