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bipolar boyfriend is having a freak out, anybody have advice?

mj77
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I'm 20 yrs old, I live in the country and I'm an artist. I'm going to...

mj77

Tuesday, November 03, 2009
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Okay, so I'm 20 and have been off and on dating a bipolar 24 yr old for 3 yrs. He can be the most amazing loving man, and honestly I don't think I'm capable of loving anyone as much as I love him. We've been solidily together now for 5 and a half months without break ups and things have been great..a...
  1. random thoughts...
    tabby
    Tuesday, November 03, 2009 at 09:56 PM

    just some random thoughts I had when reading your sharepost.  they are neither here nor there, right or wrong, salt or sugar... just thoughts

     

    he is not on meds or receiving any treatment/therapy

    you are young

     

    his illness is unstable and not managed cause he isn't receiving proper treatment

    his life will continue to be unstable because his illness is unstable

    he is not managing his illness

    his moods and life will stabilize if he were to receive proper treatment and properly manage the Bipolar

    THAT IS, if he truly has been diagnosed with the disorder

     

    as long as his illness is unstable... your life will be unstable along with his as long as you are along with him

    you need to decide how much instability you can handle and where to put your line in the sand and then follow up with the consequences when he crosses it.. which he will, as long as his illness is unstable

     

    as far as his current behavior being simply from Bipolar?  Who knows?

    1000s of people who do not have mental illness do the same thing

    it's not a Bipolar thing exclusively

    doesn't answer the question, I know but it is a answer all the same

     

    would God do this?  Only God can answer that question.  No mere human can and we are so far ill equipped to second or third guess God and his ways and means.

     

    as far as what to do to keep him from running?

    not one friggin thing

    you can't cage someone who doesn't want to be caged

    if he is going to run, he'll run

     

    why would you want to force someone to stay or better yet, change yourself in hoping to keep someone?

     

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