My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years. I was diagnosed 3 years ago. I never needed to share my feelings with him before but it is harder now to not have someone to talk with. I have my friends and such but its different, you know. So this weekend we were kid-less - they were all out with friends/family. We got into this conversation and he asked me why I loved him. I told him he is a good guy and that he is a great father. I asked him why he loved me and he couldn't answer. He told me he is just not able to support me emotionally. He doesn't know how to and he does not want to go to counseling for it. Its just not who he is. So this was a bit of a surprise for me... and now I am thinking what I am supposed to do. I already feel lost and lonely at home with no connection. I have a son (15 yr old) who is early onset bipolar and my youngest is 9 yrs old and he is afraid he will be bipolar as well. So it is a struggle for me to deal with my bipolar and deal with my teen's rages and not taking his medication all the while being alone without someone to support me. I am lost and alone... the only friend that really understood me and supported me is moving. He said he will be there for me no matter what but its different when your 3 hours away from each other. Husband knows that I have friends that I get support from and he said he was thankful for that, but thats not fair for them or me. I should not have to depend on my friends to help me through my rough times when my husband is in the house with me. I am lost... confused... scared. I don't know what to do, where to go and how to deal. I guess I am just venting here but I really don't know what to do anymore. I don't think I have ever been so lost in my life. 
It's ok to feel lost...when the one you love the most can't give you what you need or want.
If your spouse isn't going through what you are, they can't ever understand. My husband has said some very hurtful things to me in the past few months as we went from a diagnosis of depression (which we knew about) to bipolar (which we had to learn about). I've learned to say what I need to say, tears and all, and listen to what he has to say and accept it.
I have accumulated a wide range of friendships that meet the needs of differing parts of me. My husband is the only one that is allowed into my sexual being. I would never be unfaithful. We both understand how it is impossible for him to meet my need for debating/deep thoughtful conversations/deep spirituality when he is a very simple man and I'm pretty complex. He is grateful that I have people in my life to challenge me in those ways.
I've learned to be content that he's not the person that is the be all and end all for me. I think I've quit trying to change him into that person.
I know after dealing with the fearfulness; the clingy-ness; the 'oh my gosh, what would they think if they really knew me' kind of stuff in the recent past how difficult it is for some to let new people in. We can put ourselves in a box and the world gets pretty small at times.
I so appreciate this site because we can reveal in a fairly safe way those parts of us that we might not readily share with someone sitting across the table from us. Take advantage of this place. We are here to be support to one another.
I hope that you can come to an understanding of your husband and not get angry with him for not being what you expect. Appreciate him for what he can do...be a good provider, love you to the best of his ability, and/or whatever you love him for.
God's blessings,
Shelly