7 YEAR OLD BIPOLAR?

aerdna82 Community Member March 09, 2010
  • My son is 7 years old and I believe he has bipolar disorder or something like that. He is a very lovable child, but can go from happy to sad to mad in literally seconds. He also isn't fully potty trained. He is scared to death to do #2. He holds it and won't go sit on the toilet. When told to go he bited himself and screams obscenitites. He calls himself stupid and says he hates himself. I reassure him that he is very smart and can do anything he wants to do. He argues with me and says no he isn't and so forth. He had an MRI done a few years ago and they found nothing. He has been put on laxatives for the bowel problem, but nothing. I am starting to think it is more serious. He has very bad emotional problems when it comes to his father. His father is diagnosed with bipolar and rarely sees his children. I have anxiety and depression issues myself. He has been to counseling and was taken out because I didn't like the way she "dealt" with my son. Due to not having good insurance, it is very hard to find good care for him so he can lead a happy, normal life. I really need anyone's insight on this. When I take him to his pediatrician, she recommends me to the place where I won't go and unfortunately it is the only place in town. I live in Illinois so if anyone has any answers or advice, please help me and my son! Thanks!

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  • lawyer100
    Mar. 10, 2010

    I know how it feels to not have good insurance, or none at all!  It does make it a lot harder when your insurance sucks.  I live in Missouri, so I'm not sure what the state of Illinois might offer in the way of helping people with mental health problems.  Since you and your son's father both seem to have mental illnesses, I would say that it...

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    I know how it feels to not have good insurance, or none at all!  It does make it a lot harder when your insurance sucks.  I live in Missouri, so I'm not sure what the state of Illinois might offer in the way of helping people with mental health problems.  Since you and your son's father both seem to have mental illnesses, I would say that it is a real possibility that your son is starting to show early signs of a psychiatric disorder-I'm not a doctor, so I can't say what he might have.  You should find a child psychiatrist if possible with your insurance, and keep going until you find one you like and that hopefully your son will like and trust, even though you might have to travel and if it's possible for you to go out of town.  Do you live near a major city?  Also, have you looked into maybe getting Medicaid, or do you not qualify for it?  I would definitely get him counseling as well, see if he will open up to someone else without you in the room-I have been through a lot of counseling througout my life and I talked more openly when my parents weren't in the room.  He sounds a bit like my younger son, aside from the bathroom problems, although I believe we did have some issues with going #2 at one point.  My son is now 9 and has issues with some depression and anxiety, and he even can be nice one minute and screaming and hitting his older brother the next.  Some of that could just be his age.  And kids can feel your own anxiety and the anxiety you get from dealing with them-I think that's why both my kids are very high strung.  My oldest is on Adderall, an anti-depressant/bipolar med combo and another med for his fidgeting.  My 9 year old is on Lexapro already-he has problems adjusting to his dad always being gone with the Army.  Before we medicated him, he would cry and scream and we or the teachers would have to drag him into school-it was so embarrassing.  After being medicated, that all changed, although he still does have anger issues.  He will sometimes say that he hates me, hates everyone, hates himself, he's even said he doesn't want to live (wants to die), which is scary.

     

    My oldest son threw similar fits when younger.  He would hit himself, hit his head on the wall, and blow snot into his hands and rub it all over himself!!  Just so gross!  It sounds like you need a better pediatrician-someone needs to really adress the toilet issues and not being fully potty trained.  Just out of curiosity, and I hope you don't take offense to this, but is there any history of sexual abuse with him, by a neighbor, someone else's parent, etc.?  Have you asked him about it?  I talk about this because I was sexually abused at the age of 6 or so, and it definitely can cause personality and mental issues--I still have issues as an adult from the abuse.

     

    Mental illness runs in families, I believe it is or can be genetically inherited.  Have you been on websites for bipolar in kids, and maybe researched the symptoms seen in bipolar children and compared those to your son?  Some sites are really good and have little quizzes/checklists you can look at and compare to your son.  I would just google bipolar or bipolar in children.

     

    So with the insurance problem, I'm not exactly sure where to start looking for help.  Maybe start with social services and see if they can give you info on psychiatric care that is free or is for very little money.  You could call the nearest major hospital, and talk to someone in the physician referral service-they may be able to help and/or suggest a doctor for you.

     

    Sorry I rambled on so much!  But I hope that I have helped you a little bit and/or made you feel a little better about your son, and that you're not alone, that other people have the same kinds of problems with their kids as well.  I really think your son may be reacting to his father hardly coming around as well.  It may help if that situation can be bettered in some way, even if it means not letting his father come to see him at all if he won't promise to see him more often on a regular basis.  You should find a psychiatrist for yourself as well to help you deal with the anxiety-the right meds will make you feel a 100% better!  I will look around on the internet tomorrow and see if maybe I can find an answer to your insurance situation-who knows, maybe I will get lucky  and find something (I'm very good at research due to being a lawyer-a job that I must tell you that I pretty much despise)!  Just let me know if you live near a major city, or even a bigger town with more doctors.  Good luck, take care and relax, make some time for yourself just to sit in a quiet room and read or whatever relaxes you!

    • aerdna82
      Mar. 10, 2010

      Thank you so much for your response. I live in a small town in Illinois, there are several bigger surrounding towns. I am about 1 hour from Effingham and 2 from Champaign. Traveling isn't a problem for me as I do have family in Champaign. I do have medicaid and I believe that is one of the reasons as to why I cannot find proper care for my son.

       

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      Thank you so much for your response. I live in a small town in Illinois, there are several bigger surrounding towns. I am about 1 hour from Effingham and 2 from Champaign. Traveling isn't a problem for me as I do have family in Champaign. I do have medicaid and I believe that is one of the reasons as to why I cannot find proper care for my son.

       

      I have talked to my son asking him if he has ever been "touched" or "to touch someone" and he is persistent with it always being no. I am not sure of anyone that would have done that, but it has made me question myself about that possibility and the men I have around him.

       

      My depression and anxiety is under control which I am thankful for. I really hope I can find someone that can help my son feel better. I appreciate you talking with me as it helps hearing that my son isn't the only one out there. Sorry to hear that you have went through some of the same ordeals as me.