My wife is bi-polar and it is pretty tough sometimes although I'm probably one of the lucky ones because she tries so hard. Still, there are those moments and when they happen, some people who are close to me have asked how I manage to hang in there and dont leave? First-things-first I guess I'm lucky because way-deep down inside I know I love her and she loves me. But that's not why I'm re-posting some recent advice I gave in this topic. It's because I've been told that the technique I'm sharing with you now has helped others.
Living with a partner who is Bi-Polar, there are always going to be times when you feel you cant bear the pain of being with them. When your feelings become too much for you, try to imagine a situation where your partner is sitting on their bed, alone, quietly sobbing about how terrible they feel about what they have done to you and others, and how sad they are that they never asked for this condition to be there. The chemical changes in their brain that reach up from within and changes their mood in a blink of an eye.
Now change places with them in your mind, and just imagine what your partner would do if that was you sitting on the bed?
This works for me every time. When I stop and think what would happen if I was sick, or ill with some permanent condition, I realise my partner would be there for me.
I find that this "visualization" exercise softens my heart and helps me stay in love.
I hope this helps even just one other person.
Published On: April 24, 2008