Saturday, April 09, 2011
I am a 25y male and I have been a bipolar patient for around 4 years. I got 2 severe attacks in a span of 3 years.
My personality type is sensitive and introvert. I am extremely sensitive to crowd. Too many people and strong lights triggers a manic depressive episode.
I am getting married within 2 weeks time. Yes. congrats to me but there will be huge crowd and strong lights everywhere. If my condition worsens on such an occasion then my life will be a havoc.
Worried
ok
dumb question but I'll ask anyway
If you know what triggers your most intense episodes, then why did you agree with your wife to be - who by the way will have to deal with you during your next most intense episode - to have a large crowd and large lights?
I get that a wedding is all about the bride. I was one once myself, though mine was a very small intimate outdoor affair (we was poor - i still am).
Congratulations most definitely are in order and I do sincerely wish you all the best in the world.
A suggestion, and that's all it is - you can take it or trash it - up to you entirely is:
I would try my best to convey to her that you really do not do well with large crowds and even less in bright lighted areas with large crowds.
I'm thinking, and only thinking, that if you are like most with Bipolar and placed in a predictment that you know that you know is not good for you... You'll most likely respond in a manner that will not be the most positive because you'll be most ill at ease and your mood shifting will be most unpredictable. The results of which, may not be the most pleasant for yourself and for her.
You love her and want to be the best there is for her but, like the dude with a chronic medical illness of which certain things really need to be avoided in order to not produce a medical emergency... this is similarily the case. Really, it is.
If you had an autoimmune disorder, certain precautions would have to be taken. If you were blind, certain things would have to be. If you had Diabetes, certain issues would have to be in relation to food and drink. If you had seizures, the same. If you had a heart issue and physical strain caused problems, certain issues would have to be undertaken to reduce your physical strain.
See, what I'm getting at? Same would be for her if it were her issues. You would make modifications and adjustments for her or any of her relatives that may have a medical condition. You would, if it were her, right?
Because getting married may not seem a stressor at first... but it is. Any change, whether good or bad, is still a change and change is not always a person who has Bipolar's best friend.
Oh and another suggestion would be to go to your pdoc immediately and your therapist and inform them both - if they do not know already - and explain the situation to them and seek their best advisement.
It may be that the doc can tweak your meds a bit