Hi, Darryl. Kilo's given you a very good answer here. I realize how frustrating this is for you. You know what she needs to do, as does she, and she won't do it. This, unfortunately, is the reality of the depression end of bipolar, which is no doubt a lot different to the state she was in when you met her.   If I can offer a glimmer of hope, people with bipolar tend to cycle out of their depressions (as well as cycle back in). It may be that you can put up with these downtimes, especially if you know they are merely temporary, like the seasons. But you don't have to feel guilty if this is too much for you. At some point, you are going to have to think of yourself. I may have bipolar, but that doesn't entitle me to special privileges in a relationship. A bit of lattitude, perhaps, but that is no more than what we all ask.   You are obviously very compassionate and understanding. You care about your girlfriend. I sincerely hope things work out for the two of you.