Okay... this is so confusing. It's probably going to sound crazy, because in honesty, it is. Everything is so messed up, I can't sort through it all. I want to find out how to get out of this mess, and how to get her to stop what she is doing to her family. I'm 19 years old, I was diagnosed with Bipolar when I was 10 years old, and found out that I was never Bipolar when I turned 17. My grandma adopted me when I was 10, and I had problems due to my mother's behavior. I was very angry, she had a friend give her a book on mental illnesses. My grandma decided I was Bipolar, and called a psychiatrist for it. I went in, they had me take a test... but my grandma was answering the questions for me. Because she said I lied. So I never thought I was Bipolar, not even from the beginning. Around the age of 16 I often would not take the medication perscribed for a few weeks, to prove to myself that I wasn't Bipolar. She would always tell me how 'wonderful' I was with the medication. She didn't know I was throwing it away and not taking it. So, that's when I really started to take notice that maybe I seriously wasn't. When I turned 17 I confronted my grandma about me not taking the medication. She told me that I was crazy and needed it. But soon, I moved to Ohio to live with my mom. (Me and grandparents live in Indiana) I lived with my mom because I wanted to live in Ohio and get my own place there so I could be with my family. During the time there, I had heavy issues from my past that surfaced. I had a lot of crying, but I came to terms with them. My mom told me, "Kendra, you don't seem Bipolar at all. I think the doctor made a mistake. Your emotions and everything are normal." Well, a few months later, my mom was really bad into drinking. She got in a car wreck. I had to stay with my aunt. While living with her... she told me similar to what my mom told me. So I finally got the courage to call my grandma, and I told her what they told me. She said, "Oh, that's because you're not Bipolar. The doctor said that you had some problems that needed to be dealt with but they were too deep and it was up to you to make them go away. So we put you on medication for Bipolar to help in the meantime."

But the thing is... now she denies ever to say that to me. My aunt was with me when I called, and she heard the conversation. I wanted her to be there because I'm scared of my grandma. Also, I noticed when I was in Ohio... I didn't get in one single fight with anyone. Not like how I did with my grandma. I had disagreements, but they were nothing like the constant fighting for hours with my grandma. I told my aunt I didn't wanna live with my grandma ever again, because I didn't want to go back to the fighting. I also found out from my other aunt, that she went through something similar with my grandma. And she decided it's best to not get to close with my grandma, because if she keeps it short and sweet, it doesn't make arguements happen. She told me things that made me realize so much... I always was never able to trust my grandma. She'd talk to me, and we'd be perfectly fine, until I would say something that I trust her to keep at heart. She would take whatever I trusted her with, and throw it back in my face to hurt me. When I lived with her... she used my mom and dad to hurt me. If we'd argue, she'd say I was just like my father. Which... it hurt... but why should that be an insult to me? Why would it be so horrible to be like my dad? It's not. My aunt told me she used the 'Just like your father' insult on her too. And she felt the same hurt. Another thing, if you were to be a friend or someone in public that she just met, she would be happy. Put on a show of pretend happy, but once the friend leaves, or the person... she goes back to normal. She's also very into blackmail. She will argue with you, then be nice and buy you something. Then she will say something to upset you or hurt you, and when you react, she brings up 'I just bought this for you and now you treat me this way?' kind of thing. Also, another thing, is she promises things constantly and never goes through with it. She also likes to tell people that they have problems, what the problem is, and how they should take certain medications for it. She also never says sorry, avoids hugs and 'I love you'. She won't take responsibility for her actions. Arguements are always the other persons doing, never hers. But from what I found out from my family, they have hurt them in the same ways me, but she didn't go so far to try and say they were Bipolar. My aunts tell me she probably did it to medicate me so she would feel better, and have some control over me. Which, she does. I try not to show any emotion around her period, because if I do, she claims I'm Bipolar. Such as one time my aunt came to visit in Indiana when I lived with my gramda. When they left, I cried because I missed them. A normal reaction. She started yelling at me, telling me to stop being dramatic and not to start a fight because it was nice outside and a good day. I immeadiatly stopped the crying, afraid of being yelled at more. One last thing... My grandpa has cancer, and she told me she hates him because he is taking her life away from her because she always has to take care of him. It hurt to hear her say such a thing. So anyways, those are some of the things. I don't understand why she hurts me and my family like this. I want to know who I can go to for help, how to stop her from hurting us. My question to you is... what do I do? Is it a legal issue? Why is she like this? Someone, please help me. Because I don't want anyone to go through this anymore. I want peace for my family!