Well this is hopeless, again. Im so sorry to hear about your heartach.  Since I wrote in regards to my husband's personality change, My 56 year old husband divorced me, moved to germany, and is engaged to be married to a 30 year old German lady.  While on his meds, his personality and appearance has changed dramatically! And now I learned from my children that their dad and his young fiance have been visiting adoption centers and are planning to adopt children! OMG! My ex-husband hated raising our children. I do not know who this guy is but his brain chemistry has definatly altered.  And it sounds like the same is happening to your husband.  I know how hurt you feel and how great a burden this is on you, but you can't live like this. If you do decide to go ahead with divorce, remember that there was a time in your life without him, and you were happy then, and you can be happy again. Now that I am divorced, although I miss the husband I once loved deeply, I am at peace and I am healing.