My husband and best friend of 9 years had a manic episode 4 weeks ago. He had been diagnosed with bipolar but wasnt very compliant. He had stopped his meds again because he didnt think they were helping. Typical bipolar statement. While he was off his meds he cheated on me with a co-worker. When I asked him about it he said he didnt know why he did it. He didnt remember who initiated the sex,ect. Im not sure if he truly doesnt remember or is sparing my feelings. I have offered him a 2nd chance since this was his 1st offense. He was very mean, angry, and hurtful to my 2 kids, myself, and our family members during his manic episode. He would run off to friends houses, stay out all night, not return my calls or texts. He wanted to be anywhere but here with our family. He was very irritable with the kids, so much that my daughter didnt even want to be here anymore. His moods would change almost every half hour. He would be fine, then mad, then crying, then want to smash stuff or fight with someone. He has told me the affair was only a 1 time thing and that he has no feelings for her. Im having a very hard time with this and moving past the incident. When he 1st told me he said he would never get over what he had done. He said he ruined my life. Yes, my world was turned completely upside down. I never thought he could ever do this to me. He was always so against cheating because his mom did it to his dad and he had 2 previous girlfriends that cheated on him. I was in shock when he told me. I was in even more shock when he told me who he cheated on me with. This girl had been so nice to my face and had even held our baby. How do I get past this hate I feel for her? How do I forgive him for this ultimate betrayal? He still to this day wont give me access to his cellphone. Suspicious? Yes I think so. He sees a psychiatrist this coming monday. He was currently put on Lithium and Effexor which is doing a so so job. Im hoping the psychiatrist can do even more for him. Our marriage, his job, his relationships with family members are all in jeopardy. He has promised this will never happen again. How can he know that for sure? Will the meds at the right level keep him from having manic episodes all together? Is there hope for our future? Good luck everyone, I surely could use some luck.