I stumbled upon this board today - Im so sad and so devastated but happy to know Im not alone in this - I just caught my husband of 21 years having an affair - and this certainly was not the first time - this is atleast the 3rd time that I know of - but the new twist here is that he was having sex with these women - The past affairs I never thought he went that far - but has basically in  so many words admitted - Maybe I was naive to think he wouldnt have taken it that far - I want out so badly - he is recently diagnosed with Bipolar - and Now I feel trapped - Do I stay with this man whom I gave my vows to "in sickness and in health" or do I run with my 3 children and never look back - I know in my heart If I stay that I will never be happy - and will continue to get hurt over and over again - I know he is ill - I know this isnt truly his fault - I know its the mania - but can Bipolar people ever find happiness - Im trying so hard to understand this - the kids are hurting - Im hurting - I hate this disease - Its killed my marriage - its killed my kids and its killing him...............