Hi there kristen ...I have bipolar and have had for many years only been diogniosed about a year ago , and its hell , there are so many strange thoughts going around in my mind at once you dont know whether you her or there , I constantly take up expensive hobbys and give them up after a short period of time , my wife loves me very much and somtimes I ask the questions ,if we broke up ,when we break up, and at the time I ask these questions there is no remorse or feeling, I find it very hard to stay friends with girls as Im always reading the wrong signals I think ...we have been married 13 years with 3 kids and love them to death.., your husband probably doesnt see anything wrong with what he is doing , I have a girl that is a friend at the moment and find her fun to be with and I hate to say it somtimes more than my wife , I dont at this time have any plans to leave my wife , but things do happen, I think at this stage of my life my wife and I are comfortable, maybe to comfortable and thats why I see this other girl to fill a void in my life