Hi I have been married to my husband for 15 years. He continually abused me, emotionally, physically and verbal abused me in front of our daughters. I left him two years ago and he went to therapy and appeared to really be changed. Well it didnt last long and the abuse escalated and the control is insne. He would turn up the tvs and stereos and make loud noises for four hours so I couldnt sleep. He has hit me and accuses me continually of having affairs and being a slut. I have never had an affair. Actually he did 13 years ago. I told him last week our marriage was over. He did start therapy a month ago but I dont see any remorse. He went to his Dr yesterday per his therapist request and was just diagnosed as bi-polar. I knew this due to the fact I am in mentl health but did not look at my own life and chocies of why I have stayed in this so long. I feel that his abuse is due to control which to me doesnt tie into bi-polar due to the fact a pill cant control his behaviors only rages. He denied today he has abused me and stated Im bi-polar. I still am planning to divorce or get a legal separation. My question is how much does his recent bi-polar diagnosis have to do with abuse? I am also relieved about this dx but also angry due to the fact for 10 years I have asked him to seek mental help and he never would..and now I am in therapy for fight and flight anxiety due to continually being attacked and on guard. I would appreciate any advice. Thank you so much.