Hi, cajunwmn. Even with a person who only has bipolar, you are taking on an awful lot. And here we are talking bipolar plus a range of addictions. Be warned: This may be way more than you asked for.   Early dating is what a friend of mine calls "the romantic idiot phase." And you probably met this person when everything was humming along just fine, when he was mildly manic -sociable, funny, energetic, etc.   Well, as you can see, that's not the way things will always be. So it's time to assess things with the rose-colored glasses off.   I've met a number of people with co-occuring bipolar and addictions who have enjoyed long-term loving relationships. So I'm not saying give up on the person. But you need to take a realistic look at what you are getting yourself into. You need to be aware of the huge downside, and this includes the potential for abuse.   Between the bipolar and the addictions, there is way too much potential for outrageous behavior here - not to mention the tendency for him to justify this behavior and thus make life hell for you, which sets up the abuse.   So here's another thing to look at: If you come from an abused background, you are likely to seek out what you know. It takes a lot of work to break the cycle, so if this applies to you I would suggest seeking out a therapist.   I wish I could be more upbeat. Sticking with this individual may be the best choice you ever made - I'm simply asking that you make that choice very carefully. Hope this helps.