My sorry for all the mistakes..I'm always in a rush to write and do things...Anyway, from your own experience, how long does the 'bad' phase last, I mean from the time your husband tells you he wants divorce till the time he sort of goes back to his 'base line'...my husband has been like this for 3 months, since he treid to commit suicide and went into a reallly bad Manic Episode, still ver psychotic now thkning I'm plotting againdt him...it's hard with the 2 year old around...I'll be honest with you, it's a bit better now that he moved out (1 month ago). At least I don't hear the insults everyday. But I have hope since he is going to his Psychiatrist and psychologist and he is taking medication (for 2months now). It's just that I didn't think he'd be angry at me for this long!!!

I understand the hurt associated with the constant insults.  My husband has left before with no words or explanation.  He tol dm eone day 2 years ago that he wanted a divorce.  He left December 18th without any explanation or anything and left all of his stuff.  I didn't hear from him for days...neither did his family.  He came back home on Christmas Eve and slept for 3 days straight.  He didn't speak to me for the first 2 weeks back in the house--just existed.  Then, one day he asked me to hang out and started talking again.  Still, even then, we only spoke briefly and infrequently.  It was March 3rd, his birthday, before he actually "came back around to his old self." I could never get him to talk about it.  He acted like it never happened.  I still don't know for sure where he was when he was gone.  Because his illness is a secret, I know he did not stay with any of our friends or family members...and we live in a very small town.  I spent the holidays "making excuses" for him like I often do. 

There have been other times that he did not leave but told me he would divorce me if he had enough money to support himself...since I pay the majority of the bills, etc.  Those lasted several weeks.  Eventually, something would just happen and he would be kind and loving again.  These continue to occur though. 

My husband also has moments when he thinks I am "out to get him."  I have also dealt with the suicide threats and moments when I begged him to stop what he was about to do.

I know he would do better if he would just take medication correctly and stay on it.  He also keeps quitting every doctor he goes to because he doesn't like them or what they have to say.  Then, he will go to a new doctor and not tell them about the bipolar.  I wish he would just accept that he has this disease and that we can tackle it together.

I do love him but everything keeps slipping further and further away.  I just can't imagine a life of this anymore---when he doesn't even try.  But, on the other hand, I cannot imagine life without him.  I do hope the best for you!