My friend/s.o. last saw me and told me he cared about me deeply and probably loves me.
Then I had a friendly hour conversation 2 days later. Then on New Year's Day ( I live 4 hrs. away) I called cuz he divorced his wife on New Years Day in 2000 and I was worried about him. He says he does not care about his ex, but if I bring up her name, he gets very angry or depressed. He left her, but 5 yrs. later, they were dating and he tried to visit her in another state, but by then she had another boyfriend.
Anyway, on new year's day i called. the first hour, for no reason, he threatened the cops if i ever contacted him again. so i said i could not be a friend. then he switched moods and became very friendly, talking in a friendly manner for another 4 hours, until he was exhausted. then out of the blue, 4 days later, a letter threatening me with the cops, if i contact him again.
he changes moods like this. is it borderline personality and what do i do to fix him? do i ignore him or keep contacting him , hoping to find him in an up, loving mood.
thanks. you are so helpful. yes, after my last post, i ignored a letter saying cops if I called . But I took a chance, thinking he would be in the opposite mood, and he was very friendly on the phone for an hour, so his letter was void, in the cops eyes, if it were ever an issue, i believe