My partner had a troublesome day, he went on a drinking binge and crashed out for at least 12 hours. nobody could contact him or get an answer from his door or phone. His brother contacted me to see if I had heard anything, we were both worried. Eventually he spoke to us and apologised. His brother said to me, Dont tell him we have spoken it will set him off. It did, he found out a few days later and all hell has broken loose. Now I am being accused of having an affair behind his back. I have had terrible verbal abuse and yet I have done nothing wrong. I wanted to mention that his brother had called but his brother begged me not to. He is a very jealous person, even with my family and friends. I feel he is insecure, i feel he is controlling. He has two sides, one is kind , gentle and giving and the other nasty and abusive. As soon as he has a problem he panicks and gets hiself into a frenzy..... I am sure he as bi polar disorder. Does anyone recognise these symtoms. I am going out of my mind. I love him so much.
Hi, Den. This kind of abuse is unacceptable, whether your partner is bipolar or not. No excuses. I'm sure you wish he would change, but this is probably not the first time something like this has happened, and it is bound to happen again. I know how hard this is for you, but your love will only go so far. Please reach out to friends and family, and professional help if you can afford it.
my partner has been diagnosed with bipolar and manic deppressive, what you explained sounds totally wot i go through on a daily basis, Ive been accused of going with his best friend becauce he thought i was touching him while standing next to him, ive been accused of lookin at men in the street which none of these are true it makes me feel like i have to look at the floor when were out just to stop him thinkin im starin at men. He's jealous angry and he would of reacted exactly trhe same in your situation, u just need to learn when his mood is going to turn, ive felt like i walked on eggshells wen we first got together last year and we,ve been off and on since august! but we are now engaged and im tryin to cope with the mood swings. i noticed you have to always be calm and never bite back when they cause arguments, they do it for a reaction! he always thinks my phone is on silent so i prove to him it aint, or i show him texts to prove its my mum. im used to this now as i have nothin to hide, same in your case wen things like that happen its best to tell the truth and calmly deal with the sittuation rather than lie and suffer more from the rage. always tell him you love him and tell him to see a doctor and that you will go with him. hope this helps
Thsnks Samantha
I thought i had found the man of my dreams - I did but he has another side which I hate - I just want him to recognise that he might be BP and get some help. I will keep on trying, but i am getting more and more emotionally drained. Its horrible when to know you have done nothing wrong but are accused of it constantly. When I ask to discuss his moods etc, he replies with a Dont want to argue ......................
I will keep on trying until all my energy is gone.
I married a bipolar. I love him dearly. I wish I would have known more before I fell in love with him. His mood swings are not as severe as some that I have read. However he is verbally abusive. He makes up scenerios in his mind which are untrue. I deal with his mania by either taking walks or locking myself in a bathroom. He lost his last two jobs because of his illness. If you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him good luck. I love my husband very much and I am lucky that his mania is not as bad as some that I have read.
they can be nasty and hard to deal with, my partner also says he does not want to argue, my partner jay is very tempermental at the moment still as he has alot on his plate and its me who gets the blame!! he shuts himself out but i just keep tellin myself he.ll be ok soon just ride it out! my partner only just started takin his other meds so im just waitin for them to start takin effect, his excuse for not takin them was they made him put on weight! is your partner on medication? as it does help stabalise theyre moods.
No he is not on medication. I have broached the subject and said I think he is Bi-polar or silmilar. As you can imagine he took it quite bad....."so you think i am mental" "You want me in the gutter" "i know you want me locked up" and so on.
I should have gone to visit him this weekend but couldnt get a babysitter, it as caused immense problems. He took it bad and became stroppy and moody. I didnt sleep this weekend because of his thret of suicide. His family and friends seem to be in some way afraid of him. They dont seem to be there for him, only when it suits them.
I am going to see him this weekend, I expect us to have a fab weekend, we usually do. But when I come back again he gets down and miserable. H drinks alot and the docotrs say they have to deasl with this first, but I think it is his condition that causes him to drink. It seems tobe catch 22.
my partner drinks also, i thinks its to do with the condition but it just makes it worse. just let him no it aint nothin to worry bout and maybe go doctors with him, or go doctors yuorself and ask what to do to get your partner to go theyre a great help. it aint the fact that he is mental, if hes going through stress its more stressful for bipolar, due to chemical imbalance in the brain, medication just help stabalise the mood and might make him very tired till they take effect. so when hes down and takes it out on you try not to take it personally as he proberly does not mean it, its just the condition. my partner can get really mad and call me every name under the sun and his mates and family to. but i no it aint him its his condition! so if your willing to be with him just always keep calm with him and look into the bipolar disorder online as its helped me understand a hell of alot. good luck x
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Thanks so much Sacey Ann
Its scarey to know that I am right in my thoughts. I love the NORMAL man and hate the BP one.
I will look at the website.
Thanks