I need to make a major decision in my life and I'm scared because I wonder if I'm in the right frame of mind. I know that my problems in the past are because of this, so I'm pretty sure I know what's right. What should I do?
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5/25/09 10:13am
Hi Maddy,
It would be helpful to have more information. How have past major decisions gone for you? Have you discussed it with your doctor, therapist, counselor, preacher, rabbi, friends? Are you on any medication? Being on the meds usually leads to clouded judgment. And of course, being bipolar, we have less impulse control and are reckless sometimes. Are you in a support group? Bring it up there. Get all the advice you can from calm, wise people. What kind of decision is it? Money? Marriage? Moving? New job? Can you give more info?
5/25/09 11:11am
So you have kids? If your spouse is abusive and making you worse most of the time, then do it. Are there enough bright points? Has he been diagnosed? I think alcohol is the worst self med we can do.
Yes, I am glad I asked! You have a plan, and that shows good judgment. You have asked for lots of advice--again, that shows good judgement.
Plan on having a lot of ups and downs, though. I would say that, from the advice you have received and the thought you have put into it, that your instincts are spot on.
Good luck and don't get discouraged. You have a long-range plan and a short range plan. Do what you have to. Money isn't everything. I live almost entirely without it!
5/25/09 12:42pm
thanks for your input. I don't have kids with him, which is good.
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thanks for writing back. I am on medications. I have been unhappily married for over a year and recently he has been drinking a lot, coming in at 2:30 in the morning...etc. He's not a total jerk but keeps hurting me mentally and doesn't even realize it. I have been thinking about this for a while. My therapist thinks that I should, my sisters also, and I think I'll be happier. Money is a concern but I think I can get a job. I'm on unemployment right now but it ends this month. I go to school full-time and really enjoy it...it is my dream to be a journalist and I wanted to try to finish in 4 or 5 years because I have a lot of pressure when I don't get my child support which will be in 4 years. I have to stay in my house because my father is 83 and built an addition to the back so it's not like I can sell it. I know I should take one day at a time and I'm looking for part-time work right now. I've been really depressed lately and I think it has a lot to do with my husband's issues. I was in the hospital for almost a week and the counselors there agreed that I shouldn't be around someone who drinks excessively because I might start drinking a lot myself which makes me extremely depressed....aren't you glad you ask lol.