If you decide to try again with a bipolar spouse, but he is not ready to admit he needs help... are there ways to force him to get help down the road?
Military, non-supportive family, and personal fears about what a bipolar diagnosis will do for his career and gun addiction. Not to mention, he loves being right. Though he admitted to being bipolar prior to going off Seroquel, he now insists I made up his previous diagnosis, and that the meds helping him was just a fluke.
He asked me, just before coming off the Seroquel to help him if he ever did something like this. He knew his condition would end up forcing him to leave the military, and tried a different anti-depressant as a last hope. He swore he would get out if the medicine did not work. Two weeks after beginning the drug, he left me. That was not very long ago, and he has cycled too many times to count. I promised him I would force him into treatment, yet that is not even possible. For one, I don't know if the guy I promised was the real man, or if this new, detached guy is his normal character.
The whole situation sucks, and after a two month separation, I have almost moved on. I told him two days ago that I hated hearing from him, did not want to be friends, and was tired of him screaming at me for hours at a time about how horrible I am. He only calls to yell and fight... then expects me to listen to his ever-changing career plans, etc... Soon, he will complain about having to talk to me at all, though if I do not contact him about a joint matter I get in worse trouble for not calling. He says he wants a divorce, and stopped loving me months before our separation. Then he will get jealous for no reason, really, over nothing, and tell me that if I want to stay friends I have to change, etc. If I tell him, fine, let's just not talk, he tells me that I am saying that because I am immature, and that he will not be my friend if I continue to act impulsively... No, I did not mess up the wording. He turns the conversation around, and makes it seem like I am still begging. He tends to do that a lot.
In general, my question is just an "in case". I can't say I wouldn't take him back, assuming that is what he has been getting at with the mood swings, but I if I did... I could not live like that again. I went to therapy after we separated, and my goal is to acheive stability. Not quite synonymous with a bipolar guy. On the off chance that his mood is heading back to the same place it was in before he quit Seroquel... I would like to know my options, legally, before agreeing to care for him again.
