My husband had a severe depression 4 years ago and came out of it after being on an antidepressant. He continued that med for a couple of years. His lifestyle has always been rushed, obsessively competing in his job, overplanning family activities and personal goals, and neglecting what he feels is mundane - house maintainance... He is moody -highs and lows - and can be extremely mean, blaming me for all our financial problems. I feel I bear the responsibility (not financial) of our family of four children and am the glue that holds it all together. I was diagnosed with ADD 1.5 years ago and feel my husband has almost all the same symptoms I do, except the spaciness and the disability to follow a conversation. He twists everything around at our counseling sessions and makes it all about my ADD. I feel beaten down afterwards and am frustrated. The sessions lift him up. What will help? I have read that bipolars have the ability to deceive others about their condition, thus rarely being identified. Could this be happening with us?