That is a decision that only you can make on marriage.  If you really really love this gal and are willing to work with her to keep her well because bipolar is a very difficult "brain disorder" or let's call it "chemical imbalance" that one day she will get on the proper medication and possibly be as well as she can be.  Then there are the risks of having a child that could have the same disorder.  This is not always the case.  I was diagnosed with bipolar back many years ago and have been single since.  I too, have gained some weight from the medications but in the long run I see that being a little overweight and sane than skinny and crazy is worth it in the long run.  The obsessions of being overweight will surely get the best of you.   Maybe going to the walking track with her and being more active in most ways will keep her bipolar down to a minimum and help her sleep better at night.   I wish you the best of luck.  One more thing is professional counsiling is much advised at least every month.  It is always good to talk to a person who is not related to you and esp. a professional.  Maybe you two could see a marriage counsilor to help you decide. 

anxious -- I have many friends who have married a great love who suffers from this illness.  It very much becomes a "shared" part of their lives.  If the partner knows they have the illness and are eager to engage with it and seek appropriate treatment -- the relationship is wonderful.  Where I've seen problems is really around expectations:  are you on the same page about it and open about it; are you willing to share the support and at times even caregiving that can go with it; have you had discussions with a doctor to really understand every aspect of it?  Because, depending on the degree of the illness and over time, it can introduce important and sometimes difficult dynamics.

If you really love this person and have found a fit for all the reasons, and you are on the same page, you can make a wonderful supportive and fulfilling life.  Bipolar depression is a real illness and must be taken very seriously.  Would you feel differently if she had a physical illness?  if so why? etc. etc.  That might help you think through the ramfications.  But talking with her counselor/doctor and maybe your own is absolutely worth it, and may give you much less reason to be anxious.  Good luck!

If you love her, then yes, absolutely. Bipolar disorder can be controlled and people can live relatively normal lives. Having said that, I would educate yourself about the disease, learn how to spot signs of depression or mania, learn about the medication, and TALK to your fiance about your fears - which are valid, but you will soon learn that bipolar disorder should not stand in the way of love.

Saying all that. I lost my bipolar partner (we are/were both bipolar) to suicide. You run the risk of her suicide and her illness making things hard. She may get angry easily. She may get low. But be a man and stand up for the woman you love.

I wish you a long, happy, and successful marriage.

KSx

Is this how you want your life to be?  Every week for the rest of your life?  Maybe better, sure, but maybe worse?

You don't sound happy to me. 

Just my 2 cents.

I hope you read this. I wish you read this. I am writting this letter in tears because I am hoping that it is not too late. Brother, don't do it, please, the future of your kids and your happiness depends on it. Please don't do it, I can't bare to let anybody else pass through it. I beg you man, there are plenty of fish in the river. In their desease there is a "simptom" that transform them into the best liars, She will not respect your mother or father, she will not care if her own kids are around when she get her episodes. She will insult you and everything you consider sacred in front of your kids, she will trash your life, She will want to put you in jail she will lie, cheat, disacrate her own self just to insult you and destroy you. While I was dating her I didn't see one real episode, she hid the fact she was diagnosed with Bipolar 2 Mixed. She seemed like she got angry sometimes, but it looked like it dissipated normaly. The reason they don't show it to you is because you will be able to escape. When you get married she will try to get pregnant very fast, maybe she tries to get pregnant faster than that. Once they get pregnant they know you will always be around because you have a kid together. You might see her first episode start in that same week and IT WILL SURPRISE YOU!. You will say to your self." I messed up forever. This can't be happening." The reason why I was able to see your posting, is GOD.

I really don't want to go into detail, tomorrow I have a custody court date. By the way she will also lie of having bipolar. If you see her medication take pictures of it. Sounds dumb, but, she thinks that she can cover the sun with her pinky finger, and believe it she does it. If nobody see her having an episode, there is no way you can proove anything. and here Pennsylvania, law favors women. Besides, She will bj her lawyer, my lawyer and the judge to win. And if she has access to money, she will use it to buy people to get them to lie for her. On Friday she told me something I only told my lawyer Tomorrow is Monday. The court date. Seems like a bad situation? Yes it is. I came up with the idea of unmasking my attorney during court. telling the incident to the judge but without blaming him, kinda like saying My estrange wife knew very important details for court I never told anybody but my attorney. And unfortunatelly, that is the complete truth. With that I don't let my attorney free of the problem. Isnt there a client's confidential agreement or something along those lines? 

Stay well,

Fred.