My husband has just been diagnosed with bipolar and has been on meds for three months now. Prior to the diagnosis, he became psychotic and was hospitalized. One month later, he tried to commit suicide. He now lives in a different town from me and the children where we do not know anyone. I met with his counselor and she explained that he was very manic and had the most severe form of bipolar. She said he very possibly could have future episodes. I do not have knowledge that he is taking his medicines now or still seeing a counselor. All I get from him is his word that "he is fine". Even his family (who have been living from him) have not communicated with me any positive feedback on his condition. Now, he is asking for weekend visitations with the children in his new apartment two hours from our home with no accountability and no information. I offered to allow him supervised visits, but he is refusing saying "I don't need supervision". So at this point, he has decided to never see the children again if he does not get exactly what he has asked. He refuses to give me any information I've requested because as he said "It is wrong." He cuts me off when I try to communicate and says, "You are trying to keep the children from me!" Of course, this is not true, but as a Mother, what do I do? What types of accountability should be expected? How can I know the children will be safe given that they do not know anyone in this "new town" to call for help? I allowed him visitation three weekends in a row in November when his Mother was staying with him--but she has returned to her home 20 hours away. I also allowed the children to see him on his birthday. I drove them 2 hours and waited downstairs while they visited and had birthday cake. I feel like I've been willing to extend a hand time and time again--but he is not giving anything in return. My question is am I being reasonable and fair? Also, what type of accountability should be expected before visitation is reestablished? The bottom line is that the children are unable to see their Father. It breaks my heart to see that happen not only for them, but for him as well. I just need to know what is the right thing to do.