• heartgoeson heartgoeson
    February 25, 2011
    My sister is bipolar and I can't deal with this anymore. Am I unreasonable?
    heartgoeson heartgoeson
    February 25, 2011
    I'm 17 and I have a 31 year old sister who's recently been diagnosed as bipolar. Throughout all my life she's been problematic--irresponsible, selfish, manipulative, racking up 50k in debt for clothes and shit she didn't need, and did I mention SELFISH? Recently she had a psychotic breakdown, which the doctors said was the hypomanic state, and that's when she was put on a psych hold and diagnosed. She became religiously fanatic and started having hallucinations, etc. So, now, in view of this new diagnosis, my parents are doing their best to understand this disease and talking to a lot of counselors to see what we should do about it. The thing is, my life has been living hell ever since my sister moved back in with us with her husband and two children because she spent all her money and went broke. And then she racked up more debt! So a situation that was already tenuous at best became THE. INFERNO. Especially as I'm starting college soon and how can I not worry about the finances in my future when my parents, who are not rich, took over her debt to give her some stability and room to get her life together... Anyway, when I show how angry about the hell she's put us through these last few years, the counselors all say it's an illness and that it'll get better... But the thing is, it's NEVER been better. I have NEVER seen my sister be anything other than all of those "symptoms" of the disease. So once she's medicated, then what? She'll just blossom into this new, magnificent person? Is this illness her personality and now she'll get a new one? I...I can't do this anymore. I'm 17, and my last few years at home have been an absolute disaster. Every time someone starts talking about this in any kind of sympathetic voice towards her, I get so angry I begin to cry and I can't stop. Is it unreasonable to not want to be a part of this anymore? To just go off to college and be home as little as possible? I can't accept that it's all an illness. I can't accept that all MY suffering is supposed just forgotten. I was diagnosed as OCD a year ago and there wasn't any support from my family. I just...I cannot do this anymore. READ MORE

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  • Walkingoneggshells July 24, 2013
    Walkingoneggshells
    July 24, 2013

    Boy do I feel your pain. My bipolar sister (older by 2 years) is manic as we speak. Apparently everyone is to blame for something EXCEPT HERSELF!

     

    Everything you've said that your sister has done, mine has as well. Because of her I need counselling, and my memory has been foggy after her recent mania. I think I have PTSD. She's extremely paranoid and jealous of me when she's manic. Meanwhile I walk on eggshells and try to make myself invisible, talk down about my accomplishments, and never celebrate my life. Even my mom avoids praising me or paying attention to my achievements when she's around. Of course, my mom has paid off over 50k for her, and moved in with her to take care of her and her son.

     

    So I feel like I lost a sister and a healthy normal relationship with my mom. I'm SO pissed off with my sister sometimes.

     

    Sorry if I can't be more helpful, all I can say is that my Family Doctor, my friends, and her friends, my husband, counsellors - ALL say that I should distance myself from her and keep her at arms length, never live with her again, and possibly even in a different city. Sometimes helping is enabling, and taking their abuse does not help them get better.Sometimes I wonder if they really need to hit their absolute rock bottom before changing...

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    • eggshells2
      March 12, 2014
      eggshells2
      March 12, 2014

      Hi 

      reading this response was kind of a trip. You sound like you're going through the exact same things that I've been going through with my sister. I'm her 27 year old brother and she's 25. She is currently manic. Only 2 weeks after my mother and stepfather put her into a really nice, extremely expensive rehabilitation centre (to hopefully put a stop to her drinking habits that mix terribly with bipolar disorder) she has been "occasionally" drinking again and her old symptoms are coming back. Presumably, she's been taking her meds, put it's always a guessing game. 

       

      Thank god for my mother who puts up with 95% of the irrational behaviour. It's particularly difficult for me to coexist with her as I'm doing perfectly fine, achieving my goals, in a loving relationship etc.. - this makes her incredibly insecure and jealous and she will find everything she can to try and get under my skin to break me down to her "level" - of course the horrible things she says to me would affect me greatly when i was in my teens before we knew about the illness, but now i've just been having to sit through it, feeling for her pain. I'm completely there with you when you said that stuff about your disconnect with your mother, this past christmas my mother and I weren't even speaking because my sister's illness getting between us. 

      We all have difficulty finding ways for my sister to live in this world. She's burned a lot of bridges in terms of friendships and it's really hard for me to have an adult conversation with her as everything she says drives me crazy inside - just knowing the complete selfishness and ignorance behind everything she says makes it really hard for me to agree with anything that comes out of her mouth. 


      She's experienced a lot of failure in her life (but would never admit it), but my mother has always been there to get her back on her feet. She's enrolled in massage therapy school, yoga instructor school, early childhood education, but hasn't stuck to any of them. She had her heart broken in 2007 and she talks about that breakup as if it were only last year still - to give you an idea how traumatic it was for her. I'm starting to wonder if she'll just continue to relapse over and over and continue to get picked up time again and it will just be this never-ending tired and frustrating cycle. I'm wondering if my mom just needs to back off from the constant support and let her hit rock bottom - but this scares both my mother and I as my sister has said really scary things like "I think I'll die soon". 

      Fuck this disorder. I hate it

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    • Mia norway
      June 01, 2014
      Mia norway
      June 01, 2014
      I know how You feel I'm 21 and my sister 24 soon and she cats like she still is 10 she has had bipolar since she was 10 she's always been the same, Keep saying she is a lesbian, she is very judgemental too comments on my weight, and when I'm Heathy etat Heathy she get's mad bcuz she says se only live once, i am soo sick of her changing her mind being soo bloody selfish my dad doesn't seem to care at all And I know she has bipolar bcuz her symptomps are all the same as Everyone says Here, Even had a friend With bipolar at school it all went to hell because she was rude and trying to make me be like her. I really don't know what I am going to do? She doesn't want help because she doesn't think anythings wrong but it is, she doesn't want to have help because she cares what others think of her, that annoys me to hell, instead she complains about her day people commenting about her being a lesbian and more i am just soo sick of her obsessing over it and always talking shit. A while i wanted to record it all and give it to a doctor soo that maybe she could Get help but she is "grownup" and over 18 soo she has to make the decicion herself, god sometimes i hate that rule she really Needs help i am sick of negativity i am going mad I can't sorround myself With her because all she does is complains!!!!:(( but I think You should go to college I just went to college it was great getting away I Needed a looong vreak from my sister!! You Needed it too :) soo pack your bags;) my sister hasn't alot of friends only boks because They doesn't think she is gay, the only friends she had tried to Get her in bed. I don't really think she's a lesbian it's just she wants to be different, I think she's jelous of me having boyfriends and each time iæI have one I Get the feeling she is jelous and wants to steal them from me. Pretty annoying -.- she just got dumped of someone and all she does is complain about how terrible people are and the World is a bad place and she knows more Than me, I just can't continue it's hard to Keep being positive and it drains my energy i am soo sick and tired, I had ADHD when I was a kid grown up it gone away Even my brother had ADHD and asberger and he is more grown up Than my sister he is 18 now. Just soo sick of her what should I do? READ MORE
  • cambam January 04, 2014
    cambam
    January 04, 2014
    Hi, I have never posted anything like this before, but after reading all of the stories posted on i here I feel hope that I have never felt before and I wanted to share that. I am 16 years old and my 20 year old sister was diagnosed with bipolar disorder last year. It has. Been a rough time these past few months. whenever I am emotionally overwhelmed I sort of tune all negative thoughts out. With the recent news of my sisters disability I have just sort of shut down at home until recently. Latley I have been overwhelmed with feelings of anger,confusion, jealousy,sadness,hate and most of all plain hopelessness. I go to school and it's great! But at the end of the day I come home and realize that the news is still the same. My sister has been eaten by this illness and I want her back! I miss my best friend :( we were so closI go to school and it's great! But at the end of the day I come home and realize that the news is still the same. My sister has been eaten by this illness and I want her back! I miss my best friend :( we were so close. She was always a bit different but I just chalked that up to immaturity and believed that in time she would change. The opposite happened as the years went by. I don't know what to do I feel like screaming and crying and hugging her and punching her! she's hurting my mommy. My mom had the worse end of the stick. my sister can't funtion in this world. She doesn't fit in and she can't cope with reality. so instead of reality she found fantasy. Through an online video game thing like world of Warcraft or somthing (I honestly have no clue) she has created an alternate world where she comes out in top I guesse. She was always a bit different but I just chalked that up to immaturity and believed that in time she would change. The opposite happened as the years went by. I don't know what to do anymore, I feel like screaming and crying! Or just hugging her and then punching her!and she's hurting my mommy. My mom had the worse end of the stick. my sister can't funtion in this world. She doesn't fit in and she can't cope with reality. so instead of reality she found fantasy. Through an online video game thing like world of Warcraft or somthing (I honestly have no clue) she has created an alternate world where she comes out on top I guess. She has these online friends and she stays up until two am playing this game. She doesn't leave her room and it. Smells so bad In there! It's not healthy. She tried going to college but she just couldn't handle it and it's so much stress for me because I feel like I have to be the successful child now. My mom tells me not to tell my friends about my sister because it's not my secret to tell but I need to vent! I can't keep this "secret" bottled up any longer or else I'm seriously going to blow up one day. I know its selfish for me to be complaining because my mom is the one dealing with the bulk of the issue and my sister is the one who will never live a normal life, but Im going to start developing issues of my own if I dont talk to someone about this. maybe I need counseling with my mom? I just wish all the pain would go away and I could go back to the simple days of rolling in the mud with my sis. I know she's in there somewhere I just hope I find her before I begin to give up. READ MORE
    • artistsin
      March 20, 2016
      artistsin
      March 20, 2016
      My sister is 80 and I'm 78 and she is bipolar. Although diagnosed about 15 yrs ago, I believe she was BP even in high school (we shared a bedroom). Our relationship was always tenuous and difficult as she was always causing problems. As she got older she seemed less combative and we got closer. But, today in 2016 she is so far advanced in the disorder she has developed paranoia and now she really doesn't trust even me. So, I too, like many of you, have lost my sister to the disease. Very sad for all. I do think at this point I have to "let go and let God" take care of this unsolvable problem. She refuses to take medicine or even talk about it. READ MORE
  • jeanine May 14, 2012
    jeanine
    May 14, 2012

    I feel your pain, and more importantly, I understand your anger.  In fact, I was so fed up today that I did a google search for "anger with bi-polar sister".  Lo and behold, I found your statement.  I too, have a bi-polar sister who has spent her entire life being irresponsible and destructive.  I have answered the door to the police multiple times only to find out that my sister was back in custody for some stupid thing that she did and so that I could, once again, pick up her three (completely effed up) kids. I have my own issues and am completely pissed that my family treats her with kid gloves while leaving me, the "long suffering" sister behind to deal with the aftermath.  And before you judge me, let me tell you about mother's day.  My sister showed up drunk off her ass (after driving over here with her three young children) and spent the next three hours bossing me around beacause "It's mother's day".  Excuse me? A) You are not MY mother and B) You are a pretty shitty excuse for one anyways.  Her kids sometimes slip up and call me mommy.  Alright.  That felt good.  The best advice I can give you is to enjoy college.  Your sister will be living in her own private hell for the rest of her life.  Bipolar disorder robbed me of the sister I loved.  I miss her. I fucking hate this disease. You need to live your life, make some new friends, and be strong.  You sound very well put together for a 17 year old! I think some distance will do you some good.  Good luck:-)

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    • Cazzer53
      January 11, 2016
      Cazzer53
      January 11, 2016
      Reading these made me realise that my own private hell is something that others feel as well. My sister is 3 years older then me, she has always been the sheltered one that everyone seemed to mother. She has spent her whole adult life lying, manipulating and generally being selfish. She will never put herself out for anyone. The only time she will come to my home is if we pick her up and drop her off. My other sister has a 2 hour trip to see her but she has never been the one to visit. She is the most selfish person i know and has been on benefits practically all her life. Bi polar is the latest in a long line of illnesses she has been diagnosed with. She seems happy to be ill athough i know that sounds crazy because it gives her the excuse for not joining real life. I am so tired that i cannot hide it anymore when she tells blatent lies and call her out on it which i know doesnt help. READ MORE
  • Donna-1 February 26, 2011
    Donna-1
    February 26, 2011
    It will hopefully get better for you when you go away to college, even if you have to work and pay for your own way.  Sounds like you need to get away from the situation as well as get some counseling for yourself. Yes, your sister is sick.  Now that she's on medication, there is the possibility that she can get her act together and become more responsible.  But I would imagine she will continue to have problems from bipolar disorder to some degree.  Your parents are likely angry, too, at having their lives interrupted and their financial situation put in jeopardy, whether they show it or not.  Family therapy might even be good if it could be arranged.  You need to be able to say how you are feeling and how this has affected you over the years -- maybe not to blame, but just to express the cold hard facts as you see them.  You have every right and reason to be angry.  Don't turn it in on yourself.  She needs as much forgiveness as you can muster, yes, but you have a right to your parents' equal treatment and should tell them so. READ MORE
  • madness24/7 May 02, 2011
    madness24/7
    May 02, 2011

    My sister is also bipolar. We are only two years apart in age (I am the oldest) and what you are describing is how it has been for at least the last 10 years of my sisters life. She is 44. She has two children and is married. Her marriage has been troubled at best, although she has been married for 20 years. Her illness has created many problem for her children, both socially and emotionally. She was diagnosed with many things over the years including depression, anxiety disorders, etc. until the bipolar was diagnosed. She has been medicated for many years. I think the medication would work better if she didn't drink so heavily. Bipolar has ruined my family. My sister is currently not speaking to me or our mother because she thinks we are to blame for everything. She has gone from job to job over the years and thinks it's becasue of the horrible people she has worked for. She is extremely paranoid. I miss my nieces, but rarely speak to them for fear of how it will affect how thier mother treats them. Speaking to me can lead to loyalty issues with thier mother. I fear that nothing will ever be "normal" again. I know it's not my sister's fault, but I have a hard time separating the bipolar from my sister at times. I am angry. I understand how you feel. I wish I had some words of wisdom that will make your life easier, but ther are none. It is a day by day struggle. I'll pray for you and your sister. I pray for bipolars and thier familes everyday.

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    • isobel
      September 09, 2015
      isobel
      September 09, 2015
      Your sister sounds just like mine. Thanks for sharing your story - it has really helped me today. READ MORE
    • Alwaysmyfault
      December 14, 2015
      Alwaysmyfault
      December 14, 2015
      She also sounds just like my sister. It has helped to know my situation isn't the only one. Wish none of us had to go through this. READ MORE
  • Darling January 17, 2016
    Darling
    January 17, 2016
    I know how you feel, I'm 16 just a little younger than you, and my older brother (19) is bipolar depressed. He throws fits like a little kid and throws my stuff and my parents side with him because he's on medication and he's different and whatever. As if that excuses all that he's made everyone around him go through. I can't wait for college, I want to go and never come back. I hope your situation gets better and you feel better. It's hard to be the "normal" sibling sometimes. READ MORE
    • artistsin
      March 20, 2016
      artistsin
      March 20, 2016
      Hi, if you read my posting above, you'll see an advanced progression of this disorder. It's extremely hard to deal with a BP sibling. In effect, you can still love your sibling but have to detach somewhat to maintain your sanity and not feel guilty. Good luck to you and everyone here. READ MORE
  • invisiblesister December 21, 2015
    invisiblesister
    December 21, 2015
    I'm just like you. 21 now. Feeling the same about my sister and my family and my life for the past 11 years now--a never-ending rotation of confusion, guilt, fear, worry, sorrow, and anger. So much anger. I'm so hopeful that things have gotten better for you and your family since you posted this. I'm hopeful that you escaped and that your sister found some magical cure that mine has not yet. I'm losing hope for my own situation, so I at least hope for you and for the others on here. READ MORE
  • samshortis September 22, 2015
    samshortis
    September 22, 2015
    Also, consider Germany for college. It´s cheaper, good, you get excellent student discounts and the courses are in English. Not to mention its a big player in the future. READ MORE
  • samshortis September 22, 2015
    samshortis
    September 22, 2015
    I hope you are ok. Here´s what I would do. 1. Use the years immediately following college to go teach English in a country like Korea where you can earn enough to pay off your student loans or at least take a serious amount off of them. 2. Moving to another country for a year can give you perspective...and a break. And if you are earning money while doing it, it makes sense on your CV and is not just a waste of time. 3. You are not responsible for all of your families problems. You have to own this fact. Think about it, you want to help your family, if you want to do that the best way is securing your own economic future while you are young. 4. The world is bigger than you realise. You can find opportunities to succeed. You just have to get informed (use the internet) and have a goal. It can be anything, and it doesn´t matter if you change it later, just have a goal whatever it is and work towards it. 5. Your sister can´t help it. There may be times where you feel this isnt the case, there have been for me. My sister is Bipolar, except I´m the older sibling, I´m 31 and she is 22. And it has created a hell for her because of the terrible decisions she has made. The best thing I did was get the training I needed to have my own life and to be able to help when I can. I am currently supporting my mum who my sister is going to live with, and I just helped my brother get a job, and I was able to do all this because I have one. I don´t know what you want to be, but remember any job experience is better than none, and the earlier you start the better. 6. Let the negative thoughts come, and let them pass. Ones about what has happened, tell them you know it hurts and you are working making a positive change. Ones that worry about the future, tell them you are on your path and it´s one step at a time. All the best and take care. READ MORE
  • Lgbigfoot April 15, 2015
    Lgbigfoot
    April 15, 2015
    You described my sister almost exactly. Yes I know this post is old. But I felt compelled to respond. My 2 year younger Sister has had this all her life. The whole world revolved around her. I couldn't wait to go to college to get away. I am now in a great relationship and about to get married. My sister is in a manic phase right now because I am not having a traditional wedding that incorporates any family members - it has enraged her. I got several back to back texts last night from her all about how she may not even go and how she is mad at me that I was included in her wedding blah blah blah. As if the wedding was about her. Her disease makes her manipulate people and my parents walk around holding her hand and keeping her afloat. I never got praise from my Mother for any of the good I have done with my life. I used to think how nice it would be to have a loving normal parent - but I just don't care anymore. I have learned that my life is my life. I don't have to incorporate anything bad in it. While I love my sister and family - I realize what this illness has caused and I've resolved myself to love them at a distance. It just works better for ME that way. I am not sure how to respond to her attacks or if I will respond at all. I am thinking a response grants her too much power so I may not. Additionally she went on and on about how I make tentative plans with her then cancel them and do those things I planed with her with my friends. Specifically I asked her to go to a movie with me on and then I never heard anything again from her (typical) so I make plans to see it with friends. Then out of the blue she says "lets go see the scary film on Easter because - fuck God" - First, I hate it when she talks like that. Second, I already made plans to see it on a different night with friends because I never heard from her and it was playing in my city not hers. 3rd - My Mom had planned an Easter dinner that would have been ruined if I went to see it when SHE insisted we should see it...and it goes on and on...I could be here all day. Anyway. I just had to comment/vent. We all know that this is a devastating illness. Separate the illness from the person. Live your life as you need to live it, not as they want you to. You don't have to respond to any of their manic states. You have POWER. More than they could ever have - use that power to not be bogged down in the mire of the manic state. Be good to yourself. Be as kind as you can to them but don't let them effect your decisions. Stay true to yourself and love the ones who will accept your love. READ MORE
  • freeyourmind March 11, 2012
    freeyourmind
    March 11, 2012

    I am so very sorry that your sister's illness has affected you in such a negative way!I am bipolar and I understand because the ones that are the closest to me are the ones that I hurt the most! I don't mean to do it and after awhile I can see how that excuse may make the ones suffering from our actions sick! We have so much guilt because we do not mean to do what we do but yet sometimes it is out of our control, doesn't excuse any behavior but it's really hard to live with yourself knowing that you may have caused someone else so much pain and ruined their lives or chance of one, anyways :( I have wished many times to just die and even thought how it might be without me; but I have children and love them and they need me too. If you could just look at your sister and see the disease and learn to seperate the two and pray. God knows your pain and only He can give you the forgiveness, grace and peace that nothing else can. You can't get it alone, it is not humanly possible, only God can perform miracles in our hearts like that! I will be praying for you.

    Cry out to Him,He loves you and understands!

    Have a wonderful time at college and do seperate yourself from this if you can, college is a great excuse, a legitimate one! I do reccommend counseling 100% for you and encourage you to seek it ASAP.

    God Bless you and your family.

    Sincerely,

     

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  • Cat
    Cat
    January 11, 2016
    Cat
    Cat
    January 11, 2016
    Hi, first of all sorry if my english isn't very good, because i'm portuguese. After reading these comments and doing some research about this disorder, I was surprisingly happy to have found out that i'm not the only one with this feelings. I relate to your situations so much! I'm 21 years old and my oldest sister is 38, so I have known her beeing bipolar all my life. It´s very hard for me to live with her, I'm sick of listening to her, she doesn't shut up for a second! She is somehow jealous of me, if I speek with my mother for too long she starts trying to do something so my mother stops paying attention to me. When I was little, she used to drink and I've seen things no child should ever have to see. She doesn't work and will never work, as long as my parents support her. I've come to a stage of my life were I don't feel any love for her. My only joy is my other sister and other brother, but they don't live with us anymore, so I feel lonely... I could write so much more, because this is a problem with much to talk about, but I was interest to know if there is some kind of forum or chat were people like us can talk about this subject and share experiences. READ MORE
  • Alwaysmyfault December 14, 2015
    Alwaysmyfault
    December 14, 2015
    So sorry you are going through this. I have lived with a bipolar sister most of my life. The manipulation continued until I realized I have done nothing and will not be blamed anylonger. So sorry, your story sounds a lot like mine. READ MORE
  • isobel September 09, 2015
    isobel
    September 09, 2015
    Hi, I am actually on this comment thread because I've finally just realized, after all these years of chaos, that my sister is bipolar. She is currently at the peak of mania right now and it leaves a hole in my chest, it hurts so much to see her do this. It's both reassuring and heartbreaking to read what you all have written about your bipolar sisters' behavior, because it all sounds EXACTLY like my sister. She is two years younger than me and I adore her. She's smart, beautiful and funny, loving and amazing, but she's also in this horrible cycle of recklessness, paranoia, mania, defensiveness, hurt and keeps hurting people - her family, her children, the ones closest to her. It's mortifying to watch and devastating to feel so helpless. I wish I could help her. She hasn't been diagnosed, she would never admit that she has an issue, no matter how many times she completely destroys her life and has to pick up the pieces again. Like another poster on here wrote, she's escaped to a fantasy world often as a coping mechanism and for years was totally obsessed with and lost in the online game world of Everquest. She's constantly cycling through being addicted to substances and trying to go cold turkey. She's completely abandoned her life a few times, leaving chaos behind her, only to have to come back once the mania subsides, apologize to everyone and try to put something back together for herself and her kids. One of her children is the result of a manic episode that lasted about four months. She's in a total peak of mania right now and leaving her husband for the new 'love of her life' whom she just met. It's an ugly cycle that I've been witnessing for years in her life. I love my sister but I'm really affected by her behavior. She's racked up huge amounts of debt (like $40,000) because she is completely irresponsible with credit cards. $40,000 of credit card debt!!!!!! She doesn't even care! When she's manic, she has this hugely inflated sense of self, tells everyone else to eff off, and is in this unreachable place. People who don't know her patterns just get hurt and try to go along with what she wants, believing she's doing what she needs to be happy. But she isn't truly happy. She's manic. She does so many reckless things, in obsessive ways. UGH. I'm her older sister and I want to help her, but there's nothing I can do. :( My heart's just breaking. I'm trying so hard to focus on finishing my degree right now, I only have two months to go, and all I can think about is her latest tirade of self-destruction. I'm worried about her kids. I feel ashamed because of how she behaves on social media in front of all of our family and people who know us both. She's overtly hypersexual, and unashamed. I'm starting to think I might need some counseling to deal with this. READ MORE
  • BeckyJo April 16, 2015
    BeckyJo
    April 16, 2015
    Your feelings are not wrong. You are entitled to your anger, sadness, and stress. Living with someone with BiPolar can be hell at times. You are at a very exciting moment in your life and you want to slow down and enjoy it. Please find ways to make memories with your friends, or with one parent at a time if the other is busy with your sister. Also, make sure you are honest with your parents. I was always so strong and capable that my parents often did not realize I was hurting inside. My sister (deceased 12 years) was bipolar, and my partner of 12 years is as well. I cannot tell you how many times I have cried and screamed, "I cannot do this anymore". Yet I do. Why? Because you love the person unconditionally even when you do not love their illness. I think going away to college will be very healing for you. Establish your independence and life that is not centered in chaos. Then when you come home around her you will start to lose some of the anger you have towards her and rebuild a relationship with her. As a mother I can now see that my parents loved me just as much as her, but her illness was more demanding than I was. They HAD to constantly take care of her. With my husband I have days during an episode where I just want to be in a normal relationship. I want to not worry about him being in a rage over something silly. I want to come first sometimes. He was in a manic episode when I had emergency abdominal surgery and had to go through it alone. I had to forgive that and let it go. It was not him that was not there for me. He was not in control of his brain to be able to be the man I needed right then. I have always told him it is an illness just like any other. I will not leave him for an illness. Unless he hits me or cheats on me I will stay by his side. Some days that is easier than others. You just have to make peace with the disease. READ MORE
  • Mia norway June 01, 2014
    Mia norway
    June 01, 2014
    Sorry some of autocorrects fault that it says cats instead of acts and more READ MORE
  • Stephanie February 25, 2011
    Stephanie
    February 25, 2011

    I agree with Bobo on this one.  Its not your sisters fault.  Do you really think she would "want" to be this way?  NO one wants to be bipolar I don't think.  I know I don't. :(  Try to be patient with her, it is not her fault she is the way she is.  She don't do these things on purpose.  Try to not get angry with her, get angry with the disorder instead.  Educate yourself on it.  But I agree, that your parents should give you more attention and/or equal attention just in a different form.... the kind that YOU need, which is probably some good therapy.  I love my psychologist, having her to talk to is wonderful.  I am OCD as well and I have PTSD.  You are just as deserving of good help as your sister and your parents need to realize that.  Just please keep in mind that your sister is sick, like Bobo said.  And bipolar is SO NOT FUN.  IT IS A HORRIBLE DISORDER AND I WOULDN'T WISH IT ON ANYBODY. :(  I HATE IT. :( 

     

    I hope this helps some.  Take care and let me know if you have any more questions. :)

     

    www.mybipolarlife.com

    Stephanie

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  • bobo February 25, 2011
    bobo
    February 25, 2011

    Your sister is sick. She is not to blame for her actions. But neither are you. The healthy sibling always gets the raw end of the deal and noone should blame you for being angry, least of all yourself. Your parents owe it to you to get you a good therapist so you can work on your own issues. They are part of your childhood and the sooner you deal with them the better off you'll be, in college and later in life.

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