Black outs with Antidepressants and untreated bipolar caused Legal Problems.
I was diagnosed with Bipolar in 2006 prior to that from 2003-2005 I had much trouble with drinking and the law. I lost my licence. I assaulted a police officer. I had many drinking related offences. The only one that stuck was the Drinking and Driving.
I am now in a custody battle with my ex. (who is a cop) I have stopped drinking, go to a shrink, take my meds religiously and there has been no other problems.
Although, during our session with the children's lawyer she found some bottle of liquor (my boyfriends) in our home, she twisted my daughters wording to sound as if I still am drinking, and twisted my friends word to state I had called her and slurred words.
If I am still drinking my shrink says I am an unfit mom. MY CHILDREN ARE MY LIFE, and fear without them I will just fade away with depression....I know for a fact I will.
I am trying so hard now, going to my shrink regularly, getting urine tests done to show I am not drinking, going to counselling group and 1-1, taking my meds....I am so anxious and nervous. If we do go to trial it will literally kill me emotionally and mentally.
Any advice on how to stand up for myself for my past and now show my changes? Clearly all my legal problems came from drinking, not being on proper meds and also I blacked out during everyone of them.
Thank you so very much....I just need to feel so at peace right now, as my health is suffering in every area...
I don't really have any advice but if you are truly trying to stay sober and dry then why allow your boyfriend to keep liquor bottles in your home? This would give the impression to anyone, aware of your past issues with alcohol, to wonder if you aren't actually drinking. Sometimes it isn't what we actually do or say, it's what we keep around us that gives more of an impression. An impression that can be twisted for anyone's benefit.
Just a thought.
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Hi, Marie. I congratulate you on all you've done, but with your children involved the stakes are a lot higher. Two things:
1. Based on your previous legal troubles, you are in a constant state of having to prove your innocence. Everything you do will be interpreted with a negative spin. The more you assert your innocence, the more it sounds like your justifying. It's grossly unfair, but that's how it works. You would know that from being married to a cop.
2. The bottle in the house severely damages your credibility at a time you can least afford it. It doesn't matter the bottle wasn't yours. You know the drill - you're an alcoholic, absolutely no liquor in the house and screw your boyfriend. He abides by your rules or he leaves.
If you're willing to make excuses for the boyfriend and the bottle, then you haven't credibly established that your kids are more important to you than everything.
Keep in mind - if your story doesn't exactly fly with me, imagine how it's going to fly with the judge who is going to make the custody ruling.
You've come a very long way, but you know what you need to do,
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