Hi, Valley56. I know you can think of a lot of positives to this relationship, but why don't I give you the negatives, which you can evaluate against your own positives?   First, whether going through a divorce or not, he's in a relationship with someone else. Even if he finalizes the divorce, there's still the after-effects he needs to process.   He's in a very needy emotional state, no job, busted marriage.   On top of his needy emotional state, his illness is amplifying every positive and negative thought way out of proportion.   In short, we are talking about an individual in no shape to make a rational decision about entering into a relationship with you. If he says yes to you, it will be for all the wrong reasons.   He needs space, he needs time out. He needs the dust to settle, he needs to get his act together. He may need help, but your help comes with conditions that he is not emotionally ready for.   If you love this person, I submit the best thing you can do for him is give him his space. Resist the urge to phone him or email him. He's going through a lot. He needs to heal, his brain needs to mend, and he needs time to himself to get his life back together.   By all means, weigh this advice against your own positives. The choice is yours.