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Dr. Kennard, thank you so much for your response.  I can definitely tell that he goes in and out of irrational states, but it's difficult to tell if his feelings for me have truly changed, or if he just can't handle the relationship with everything else in his life (which seems likely).  Still I don't know if people with BD easily fall out of love.  I've read that after a depression, the relationship can become less of a priority, and the person can easily become interested in a new relationship with someone else.  If this is the case, then obviously I will give up and move on.  But without knowing, then there is no closure, and it is difficult to move on.  In this stage, he doesn't want to promise or commit to any feelings about me.  He doesn't want to "build me up." So I am in a state of unknowing.  The next challenge is, there are NO close friends or family to support him. He lives in France and his family seems to have no understanding of his mental condition.  I spoke to his dad once and he seemed to want him to grow up.  His brother is unresponsive to my requests for support.  I suspect X is quite alone trying to deal with this on his own, meanwhile striving not to feel like a constant failure to his family and to himself.