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finallydone,   Which scenario is going to give you closure and allow you to move on?  If it is her illness, does she have an excuse?  If it is her not loving you anymore, would it seem more final?  I know no matter what the reason, it must have been hard to deal with.   Falling out of love is not normal for Bipolar II people anymore than it is normal for all people.  As you stated this process started 2.5 years ago.  She may have loved you and apreciated all you did for those first 2 years and it is possible she became somewhat dependant on you to help her through the bad times.  If she fell out of love with you, she may have still hung on because she felt she needed you.  In a way she may have thought it was a big mistake to break it off because she was somewhat dependant.  When and if she became more able to manage her illness and did not have the feelings she once had, she may have been more confident to seperate.   I do not have all the details and I am guessing how this may have happened but you must understand even though her bipolar affects her mood, there is a individual with a personality and thoughts of her own, which have even more of an effect on her behavior and choices to consider.