i understand him but i at the same time i have extreme anxiety over the issue. he says i have an abnormal relationship with my family because i see them a few times a month and am spending a week in florida with my mother. i think i can handle the guilt over sex if our fighting will stop. but i have no promise of that. my stomach hurts all the time over this. i am at my wits end.
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Q: My boyfriend argues chronically with me. we've been celibate for two years due to my religious beliefs. he says this has to change or he will sleep with other people. i don't know what to do.
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9/19/11 6:37pm
I would encourage you to listen to your wise self - what would answer if
I had asked this question? I think just by reading your question, I can see you know something is amiss with this scenerio. And I would agree there is.
The point isn't whether you have sex or not - that is your choice absolutely and completely as it is your body and your own spiritual integrity you are working with.
I think the point is this: is it okay with you to be pressured into sex and is it okay with you to be encouraged to spend less time with your support network?
I could answer that for myself but what really matters is what your heart tells you. All I can say is that you deserve happiness, gentleness, and unconditional love - from everyone including a boyfriend. Respect yourself.
I don't mean to be patronizing but this is a good book: The Self-Esteem Workbook Glenn R. Schiraldi - I read it a lot and it helps me so much . They gave it to me in the hospital this last time and it has helped with my recovery.
Best wishes to you.
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