If someone is bipolar and claim they love someone when they are on medication, is it possible for their love to stop if they are off the medication? My boyfriend of 6 months went off his medication and started getting depressed. He didn't want to take it because it slows him down. We have been talking marriage and everything was going great. Then he tells me he doesn't want to see me anylonger. He said he didn't love me and that I should put all my trust in the Lord for my answers.
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Q: Different personalities when off medication?
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6/16/09 6:28pm
Hey guys, I read both of your posts here, and I wanted you to know that I think walking away is the BEST advice you can recieve. Especially if you know the diagnosis and it's been less then a year together and you are not married and have no kids... it's easier NOW trust me.
Research bipolar and the symptoms of it and see if that is something you can deal with, for the rest of your life. Because they can love you one day and hate you the next, have rage outbursts, be sexually premiscuous and cheat, be mentally and sometimes physically abusive, blame you for EVERYTHING/ANYTHING/NOTHING, need therapy for the rest of their life, need occasional med adjustments that may or may not work, have constant mood swings, over analyize everything, overspend, some have additional symptoms like OCD/ADHD, many loose their jobs or can't work, have memory loss and can't concentrate, tell lies... the list goes on. Some describe them as manipulative and decieving... read some posts on here. NOT just from people who suffer from BP but from their LOVED ONES or EX's... that may help.
I married a man that showed symptoms but I was completely unaware of what they really were and chalked it up to stress (read all of my posts if you'd like). He completley changed and was HORRIBLE. It was horrible. Unbearable. And I had to get a divorce and anullment to a man that in my mind no longer existed at the age of 28. Save yourself. This illness is genetic and gets worse with age. And even if you did marry and things were managable (if that is how you want to describe your relationship or life), your kids (or some of them) will most likely have BP as well.
6/ 8/09 7:39pm
This is exactly the same thing that happened to me, almost even down to the 6 month time period. I don't have answers or insight at all but know your situation is not unique.
Someone gave me a great book titled Loving Someone with Bipolar. I am sorry but I don't have the book here and do not know the author. I've seen it at Barnes and Noble. It helped me understand a lot but I will admit I am not even close to touching the surface of understanding.
We are communicating again but it isn't the same as it was. It is almost as if the emotion is gone. I have had people advise me to walk away but I just can't. I do not want his bipolar to define him just as I wouldn't want some health condition to define me. I want it to be something we manage together.
Take care. My thoughts are with you.
6/ 9/09 8:56am
Thank you so much for your reply. I agree, it's hard to just walk away. I just feel so sorry for him having to go thru this. I want him to know that I am there for him, but it is like he is dead inside. I am going to not have any contact with him for awhile and then see how he reacts when I contact him next week. He knows he will always be in my prayers.
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Thank you for the advice. I have decided to leave him. I went to his house on Sat morning and he had a girl over there. Right then I decided I deserved better. He called me last night and asked me to date him to see how things go. He said he doesn't want sex until we are married. Right there is a lie, as he had a girl at his house on Sat. He claimed she was a friend and nothing happened. I told him I didn't want to date him, but I would be his firend.