My husband and I dated for 7 years before we were married. He has always been somewhat selfish but he was good to me and I adored him. The first few months of marriage was wonderful, I have never been happier in my life. Then I found out I was expecting and he turned into a diff. person. We were not planning a baby and he was convinced I had gotten pregnant "on purpose". After our child was born he stopped coming home and would stay gone weeks at at time. Seeing his daughter for only a few hours a week if that. When she was 3 months old he went to the doctor and told me that he was "depressed, our life sucked". Then he would tell me he loved me one day and to leave the next. He always said it wasn't my fault but he could never tell me why he feels this way. His mother had went to the doctor with him and told me he was bipolar. When I found out he was doing Meth. she said he was self medicating. I stayed until our daughter was 9 months old when he put her in his truck in the front seat without a carseat and locked the doors I finally left. The emotional strain and verbal abuse was finally more than I could handle. I filed for divorce and now he is the person I married again. We can talk, we don't fight, he went back to work. Is he bipolar or is he just a selfish jerk who didnt want a baby?
When we were married I was not aware of any condition. However, after his behavior his family says that he inherited this disorder from his grandfather. He has been to the doctor and received depression med., ablifiy and another prescription. He took them all for a few days and decided they did not help. So he refuses to continue taking the med. he was given. His mother said that having a baby was the "trigger" that sent him in a spiral. As someone who has never dealt with this I have no idea and do not know how I can find out if there is a real condition to speak of or if that is as you said a "label" that his family uses to excuse and explain his behavior.