I dont know how to help him anymore. I am at the end my ropes, emotionally drained, cant help anymore I need to help myself or I am going to go crazy myself. He does not want to take medicine because he says that he doesnot want to be a drug addict, but he needs them or he goes postal. He screams at me all the time for anything, fights with me, says lots of mean things and is very verbually abusive towards me, I can't do anything right and I just had it. After 22 years I had enough. I just feel so bad for him that I can make myself just leave and forget about him, I want to be able to leave and be happy, and to be loved I deserved that, but I feel its my responsibility to help him and be here for him. Please tell me how to leave him with out feeling so guilty and how to help him get better or can I even help?
Q: My husband decided not to take his medicines anymore (after taking them for only one year) he's being getting sick every year for the past 12 years. How can I help him if he does not want to hel
My husband said from the start: Take your medicine or I will leave you. Extremely tough love. But it kept me going through some really rough periods of very bad side effects.
Taking meds, for me or your husband, isn't "drug addiction" any more than using insulin is "drug addiction" for a diabetic. It's survival.
It's not your job to make your husband like his meds or want his meds. Ultimately it's not even your job to make him take his meds. It IS your job to determine what your own non-negotiables are, and then refuse to negotiate them.
i dont know anything that will make it easier. my husband refusses to take his medicine too. it's a very hard thing to be involved with but i guess there comes the time of breaking point where you cant be there any more to help them even though you love them. you cant forse the medicine on him but if you leave an explain why he might get help so he dont loose you. sorry my heart goes out to you i know your pain to well an am also at loss on what i should do because i trully love my husband with all my heart but its a battle i cant seem to win no matter how hard i try
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