I am very sorry to hear your Husband is making those kind of choices please consult with an attorney right away, your Husband is abandoning the Marriage, you will need all the proof you can gather, you will need to treat this as threat to you, because it is a threat to you and your child, make precautions for yourself make sure your valuables are secured, because you do not want your spouse to take what is rightfully yours and dispense with it to finance another relationship, I am sorry this may sound hurtful, but you have to watch out for yourself and your child, surely I would recommend counseling but it sounds like it is past that point.  Do take this as a hostile act because it is, you know if it were me, I'd be saying good luck to you, but you will have very little left to take to another woman, and her children, good luck to you, Jamie.