dschere having just spent 10 years with a male BP ...i can comment to this as such some male BP absolutely love attention from anyone new that doesnt know them new females are usually their first choice ...they only know if they love you if they can get something out of you , upon discovering new people or some new vision of granduer they instantly lose interest in you.   once you pigeon hole a BP and he is exposed and vulnable he will then spend the rest of your caring attention trying to sabatage the relationship ... when you totally understand that the rest of your life will be ABSOLUTE misery , and that the tantrums and torment will NEVER change ..then you will walk away ..not walk RUN away as fast as you can ...