I am a few weeks into a long distance cyber-relationship with a 33 year old bipolar guy. He is someone I have ineracted with for quite a while on a community blog, but never met in real life. He recently told me he has been harbouring feelings for me for a long time. We started talking in private and are falling in love.

We have spoken openly about his bipolarity and he said he was much more in control now, he could identify the oncoming of a low or a high and knew what to do to get balance. And he has come off his medication in consultation with his doctor.

I was astounded (but thrilled) when he said he was going to move countries and change faiths to be with me. He has already told his close ones (family) about it and they are supportive. In case you wonder, I trust he is saying the truth, as I know his friends and some family members on the blog, and they would not have supported the pretense if it was one.

This has been going on for a few weeks now. I was getting excited about the whole thing. Then, a few days ago, he told some mates about his plans, and they mocked his decisions. This has plunged him into first an angry then a depressed mood (his own admission) and his habits with me changed from one day to the next. Suddenly, he's quiet and distant and drawn back. He used to mail me constantly and call regularly and shower me with declarations of love.

I don't know what is the best thing to do? Leave him alone to deal with it by himself? Go on mailing and be around him to show I care even if he is unresponsive? Do not invest more in this relationship as I will only be more hurt in future? Is this the kind of mood swings that will keep happening?? How long do they last?

Please help, I am bewildered, out of my depth and hurt by his change of behaviour and I do not know what I am supposed to do to do well by him. And by myself.