My wife was diagnosed 3.5 years ago with BP2. She has a theapist (TDOC) and a psychiatrist (PDOC). As of this writting she is taking her meds, buit has not seen her TDOC since 3 May 2010.
2009:
My wife starts dropping out of teaching Sunday school. She has a bout with getting drunk (we dont drink). She begins impulse spending. She begins lieing about hings. She stops taking an interest in being a mother and wife. She neglects the home.
2010:
27 april 2010: She is in love with me and sendsing me txt msg reflecting such.
29 april 2010: She says she is leaving for a few days, she needs to think, she is confused.
2 May 2010: She comes home alone, she left our children with one of our friends. She says she wants me to sleep with her in our bed and just hold her all night. I do.
3 May 2010: We got to her PDOC and TDOC. After we return home she says she still needs a little more time alone to think things through, she is confussed and thinks she wants a divorce. Before we leave her TDOC's office we agree, she should spend at least an hour each week with her TDOC and I should see a TDOC at least 2x per month to learn how to help her better. We sign release papers for the 2 TDOC's to work together.
10 May 2010: She tells me she wants a divorce, she is not happy any more. She says she cares for me and loves me but she is not in love with me?
A week or so passes and she says she wants to work out the divorce, visitation, child support etc. via mediation, that she doesn't want to do it with attorneys etc. She seems to happy but still in a confussed state of mind.
A few more days pass and she comes home to get a few of she and the childrens things. She allows me to hold her hand while we talk about what is going on, she says she enjoys the touching, but it feels wierd because we are getting a divorce.
She comes over the next day and gets some more items. She recieves a phone call and seems very tense, after the phone call I ask her if she would like a back massage to help with the stress. She says yes and allows me to give her a full back massage. She says she enjoys the touching and care I give her, but she is confussed about the touching and care I give her. She says again, it just seems all wrong we are getting a divorce.
She comes over the next day to get more items and allows a kiss, she said she enjoys it but again it just seems all wrong to be doing this because we are getting a divorce.
About 3 weeks ago she starts becoming agressive towards (not physical) just in tone, choice of words. She tells me she doesnt even like to be around me and starts avoiding my txt msgs or phone calls in regards to selling real estate, visitaion etc.
I entered into a covnant with her when we got married. I don't want a divorce and I know I can't change her. I do believe in standing by her side (together or separated). If she still wants a divorce after 12 months (our state requires 12 months seperation) I'll give it to her without contest and adding a few words to the petition (ie "her choice or desires").
I'm becoming very confussed myself. What is anyones opinion about what has happened with her? And what I may be able to do to help her? I want her to healthy/ier and happy/ier, weither divorced or reunited.
Waiting in an Agape.
