Seeker of knowledge. I don't have an answer for you, but you are not alone. You described my situation with my husband almost exactly. Only slight difference his that he became obssessed with his old high school girlfriend so ended up divorcing her husband of 13 years to be with my husband. (she must be crazy too). My husband is obessed with video games. Told everyone that it's just because I made his life a living hell. He played video games before I met him and he's still playing them on lunch breaks and for 6-8 hours everynight at his girlfriend's house. He said he wanted a divorce, but did nothing to help get one except have an affair. I finally filed on grounds of adultery. He counter-filed stating that I caused his depression, anxiety and ADHD. I'm glad he admitted to it. Makes it easier for me to get custody.   He was diagnosed with ADHD late last fall. I never thought that diagnosis was right, but what did I know. Now I find out that it's a common misdiagnosis for bipolar and that ritalin can make a bipolar person worse. I believe that's exactly what happened. He went downhill fast after getting on ritalin.   We just had a baby last summer. Prior to the baby he doted on me. Made sure I was taken care of. After the baby I couldn't give him the attention he was used to and our sleep patterns were disrupted by the baby. I believe the baby was the stressful situation that sent him into an episode. I just wish he would come out of it. I miss the man he was. I'm afraid that man is gone forever. He also put in the counter-complaint against me that being the breadwinner, taking care of the house and taking care of the baby was "too much of a burden." That's the job description for a husband and father who has a wife/mother who works full time also. I do the same thing, but I don't see my family as a "burden". e-mail me if you want to talk further.