Help, maybe I am not crazy? People think I am, for believing in this man, who used to prince charming. He was always reliable and fun loving. Enjoyed being with others. He is or was my fiance. This man I love dearly, who is or was my best friend, turned into somebody nobody recognizes. He has withdrawn from his family as well as me for a woman he found on facebook. He hadn't seen her since highschool and has now moved in with after going between her house and mine 6x since Aug 30th. Says he can't talk to me anymore. Lost his job. Phone shut off, due to lack of payment, his Mother and I refused to pay.  The round before last when he came back after "waking up" its what we refer to his real self, I pd for him to stay a couple of nights at hotel so i could see how his demeanor was before letting him come home and devasting the kids further.  His family has donated 2K to our household from him being the prodigal son and selling odd and end crap for whatever he could to fund this affair. He doesn't care. He had filed chapter 13 prior to these events which is still in the process. One of the times he ran off was the day before creditors meeting at the court. I live in missouri and the other woman lives in Ky, about 7 hr drive apart. Some of the times he ran off he was gone less than 24 hrs, before he became apologetic and sorry and he didn't know why he was doing it and loved me more than anything. Might i also add he has been taking off in his car that is not insured and is awaiting by the courts to see if it is going to have to be relinquished. All these expensive runaway trips (except for the first) has been about 2 weeks apart. On a couple of these runaway trips he did leave me good-bye notes but the rest i would just come home and he would be gone with his personal stuff and clothes. Our routine in the morning was he would take me to work and then the kids to  school. 3 of his runaway trips left us stranded at work with no thought from him how we were to get home. He is gone again now in that car, thinks he is not having a mental breakdown, just being a coward cause he doesn't love me anymore. Except i know he does. Everybody knows he does. He and I have been refering to himself as _______#1 and _____name#2. #2 is the bad one and #1 is the good one. Might i also say he is a medical professional. Not a doc though. After his first episode, which was the first time he had left me stranded, and also a no call no show to work( we both work in the same o.r.) we were required to see the therapist. Him in order keep his job and me because we lived together is guess. His second round of this is what got him fired and in 2 months got steadily worse.  He has never been like this before,according to his family also, treated me like a princess. Then i became the scullery maid. Family doc gave him antidepressents, said he did not like the way they made him feel. Took them only for a week perhaps and then quit. Supposed to be on highblood pressure med. He stopped. He has always smoked about a pk a day however i think its doubled now. Lost track. He has never been diagnosed as bipolar but i tend to think he is after reading all that i can find on the subject. Is it normal during Hypomania or mania stages to go to this extreme?  I know as sure as i type this question that it is probably only a matter of time before he contacts me for help  to come home. Our emails last week to and fro, where i was trying to reason with him to come home for help, lead me to believe he will. I gave up trying to reason with him after almost a week cause it wasn't getting me anywhere. The last msg i sent was he has a key and knows where home is and if he needs money to come i would wire it to him. He has not worked or really looked to for work since being fired 2 months ago. How long does this upstage last? or Is he in the down stage? I am not sure which is which. Help, anybody?! How does the other woman not see that this affair or he has a problem?