How do I prevent a 18 yr old girl from being committed for being bipolar/schizoprenic?
I have a very sweet neighbor who is now 17 yr old. She is on Tegratol & Risperidal. She has a slight learning disorder, but otherwise is functional on her meds. Her Mom has put her into an Assisted Living Home for 2 years and I believe she is planning to have her "committed" when she turns 18. I feel the Mother is mentally/emotionally abusing her daughter from my own observations, talking to other adults/caregivers who know her, and of course, the girl herself. The mother has isolated the girl from all friends, phone calls, visitors, fun of any sort. She will not allow the girl to earn money or watch T.V. She pulled her out of a boarding school during the 10th grade when she was succeeding and put her into this home with sick and older adults. What should I do? The mother will not tell the daughter where she is going when she goes for appointments or when. She will not tell me anything either.
gee, im not sure what state you live in, but, there must be some agency that overlooks children and adults, such a dpt of social services, depart of children families? i would definatly contact one of them and speak to someone and possibly file a complaint of neglect and it has to be investigated within a couple of days most of the time.
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I just saw this post today; despite it's April date. I wonder what you decided to do?
Alot of the "right" thing to do in a case with like your little lovely neighbor is timing.
Only that I would've seen this sooner. I personally, who have a severe mental
illness label myself; have also dealt with a few, only a few mind u, mentally ill young
people. One the one hand u must ask yourself: how well do I really know this child's
symptomatic times? Wouldn't she be inside at least or in group? How well do u truly
know her Mom? Tistrue many ill children suffer with parents who are ill equiped to cope
they work lots of hours to pay for expensive meds, or simply have no supports.
NOW, on the other hand; if you feel you know them pretty well. THAT would call
for an immediate and TOTALLY different set of circumstances. If you know this family
very well, and it is obvious that little one is getting shipped off to an assisted living
facility only to give Mom a chance to say, oh whatever; go out and make some bad
choices of her own? Sounds like that's where u were coming from. She's tired of it.
Call your local department of family and children, quickly; tick tock tick tock: she is 17
and will age out of the system overnight. Try very hard when you speak with a case
worker to stick to specific examples (and dates if you've got them), of exact
behaviors. Go back over all of it in your head. Write everything down that you can in
open direct, non-judgemental language. They will know her mother has problems.
And if ur anything like me: get that big emotional thing, a big cry whatever over 1st.
THEN, in speaking to DCF, you sound credible, not like a neighbor with a plot. I'm
sorry to sound like a dictator or a bitch; but the clock is running for this little one.
Lets let her gain all the tools she can learn before she's thrown to the cold world.
Like I said: hope I didn't sound horribly like Molly Mc Mental Drill Sgt. Hope u can
help before she hits 18, and generally in this life of constant flying emotions and
and psychosis and a bad sense self worth that comes with Mental Illness; I just:HOPE
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I just saw this post today; despite it's April date. I wonder what you decided to do?
Alot of the "right" thing to do in a case with like your little lovely neighbor is timing.
Only that I would've seen this sooner. I personally, who have a severe mental
illness label myself; have also dealt with a few, only a few mind u, mentally ill young
people. One the one hand u must ask yourself: how well do I really know this child's
symptomatic times? Wouldn't she be inside at least or in group? How well do u truly
know her Mom? Tistrue many ill children suffer with parents who are ill equiped to cope
they work lots of hours to pay for expensive meds, or simply have no supports.
NOW, on the other hand; if you feel you know them pretty well. THAT would call
for an immediate and TOTALLY different set of circumstances. If you know this family
very well, and it is obvious that little one is getting shipped off to an assisted living
facility only to give Mom a chance to say, oh whatever; go out and make some bad
choices of her own? Sounds like that's where u were coming from. She's tired of it.
Call your local department of family and children, quickly; tick tock tick tock: she is 17
and will age out of the system overnight. Try very hard when you speak with a case
worker to stick to specific examples (and dates if you've got them), of exact
behaviors. Go back over all of it in your head. Write everything down that you can in
open direct, non-judgemental language. They will know her mother has problems.
And if ur anything like me: get that big emotional thing, a big cry whatever over 1st.
THEN, in speaking to DCF, you sound credible, not like a neighbor with a plot. I'm
sorry to sound like a dictator or a bitch; but the clock is running for this little one.
Lets let her gain all the tools she can learn before she's thrown to the cold world.
Like I said: hope I didn't sound horribly like Molly Mc Mental Drill Sgt. Hope u can
help before she hits 18, and generally in this life of constant flying emotions and
and psychosis and a bad sense self worth that comes with Mental Illness; I just:HOPE
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I just saw this post today; despite it's April date. I wonder what you decided to do?
Alot of the "right" thing to do in a case with like your little lovely neighbor is timing.
Only that I would've seen this sooner. I personally, who have a severe mental
illness label myself; have also dealt with a few, only a few mind u, mentally ill young
people. One the one hand u must ask yourself: how well do I really know this child's
symptomatic times? Wouldn't she be inside at least or in group? How well do u truly
know her Mom? Tistrue many ill children suffer with parents who are ill equiped to cope
they work lots of hours to pay for expensive meds, or simply have no supports.
NOW, on the other hand; if you feel you know them pretty well. THAT would call
for an immediate and TOTALLY different set of circumstances. If you know this family
very well, and it is obvious that little one is getting shipped off to an assisted living
facility only to give Mom a chance to say, oh whatever; go out and make some bad
choices of her own? Sounds like that's where u were coming from. She's tired of it.
Call your local department of family and children, quickly; tick tock tick tock: she is 17
and will age out of the system overnight. Try very hard when you speak with a case
worker to stick to specific examples (and dates if you've got them), of exact
behaviors. Go back over all of it in your head. Write everything down that you can in
open direct, non-judgemental language. They will know her mother has problems.
And if ur anything like me: get that big emotional thing, a big cry whatever over 1st.
THEN, in speaking to DCF, you sound credible, not like a neighbor with a plot. I'm
sorry to sound like a dictator or a bitch; but the clock is running for this little one.
Lets let her gain all the tools she can learn before she's thrown to the cold world.
Like I said: hope I didn't sound horribly like Molly Mc Mental Drill Sgt. Hope u can
help before she hits 18, and generally in this life of constant flying emotions and
and psychosis and a bad sense self worth that comes with Mental Illness; I just:HOPE
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