My husband was diagnosed with bipolar 3 years ago, although looking back he has had it for all the time I have know him, (8 years). over the last few years it has been getting worse, and he only agreed to medication ealier this year during a really bad depressive bout. It lasted about 4 months. His manic episodes are for about 4 months and the downer times about the same, with some normality inbetween. This most recent manic episode, I took out a short (6 week) intervention order out on him because I needed some peace from the constant sexual harrassment, that he felt I deserved. Because of this he has now left for good, refuses to discuss why I felt the need to take out the order, and has had, and possibly still having a sexual relationship now with someone he has know for 20 years, but is unaware of his bipolar. He has been gone for a total of 8 weeks now.
I know he never wanted to leave when he was here, now, he only answered the phone once whe he was drunk and would only talk about sex, when I wanted to discuss our 6 year old daughter. He has made very little effort to contact her.
I can't beleive he can just leave our relationship of 8 years, and he dosn't even seem upset about it. He is telling me to go find another man. He knows he has the illness, but says the illness is my fault, I caused it. I am his 3rd wife, and I know he always felt bad about having 3 marriages.
Will he regret this later? I really would just like to hear sorry, I know you tried and I put you through hell.
Do you think this will happen? I think his manic episodes are hypermanic ones, not the full blown ones. Will his disorder get worse as he gets older? he is currently 48. (i am 39)
My friends and family think I am best to be out of it now and it is good that he has left.. But I am so sad.