cycling from a manic state and say somethings wrong with me I'm scared I need help. I don't know if it's a coincidence that it is around the same time of year as the last time but well, he never got the help he needed once he felt better and truth be told he was never quite the same since then but now I see all the same signs again except this time he suddenly quit his job and took off to a city over 300 miles away and is living out of his vehicle until he can get settled. He says he doesn't want to be bothered and plans on loosing all contact with friends. This is the worst I've seen him in the seventeen yrs we have been together. I've watched him gradually get worse. At first some of the earlier signs were frustrating and odd but the progression each time has become more uncontrollable and the abuse is becoming exhausting to me and our 15yr. old. He is normally very responsible when it comes to his work and well respected in his field. I see severe depression along with irritability, rage, euphoria and he finds humor in all of this especially when being hurtful only to become extremely remorseful and lost. He is being very sentimental and endearing, tyeing up as many loose ends and making sure we will be taken care of despite his sudden filing for a non contest divorce which I only agreed because he threatened me with expensive lawyers that we could not afford since our daughters surgery and now being a one income family. I'm confused by the up and down moods of hating us and caring for us all at the same time.He is stuck on this kick of 90 days before the divorce can be final. I am afraid that once this is over I cant step in to help. He says he no longer cares about his life and he has given up. He is resentful and thinks we will be fine without him and feels like he is doing me a favor by leaving yet feeling grandiose of starting a new life. He asked me how long do I think he would have to live in a new city before he can buy a gun. He has never owned one before. So now I am concerned and worried about where his mind is at. How can I tell if this is part of his manipulation for attention or if he is suicidal. It would be easy to walk away yet I feel responsible for him for he has no family he keeps in touch with other than his twin which is minimal.Help!!!
Q: I am looking for ways I can get my husband help. I believe he is bipolar and having another episode. The last one he had three years ago was pretty severe to the point he would become afraid after
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I never know when a manic cycle becomes a 911 issue. If he is far away, or even if he's in town somewhere, you have the power to contact law enforcement and explain your situation. Explain your concerns, more importantly explain the gun. Police hear stories of family members being miserable and suddenly disappearing from the scene; they might not be too impressed with his cycling or divorce papers or living out of his car. But they will be interested to hear about his mood swings and his desire to get a gun, which may prove deadly to someone or himself. Ask police to pick him up and insist a psych evaluation. After that, you just have to close your eyes, hold your breath, and find God. Good luck with your journey, and I'm so sorry about the devistation you are going through.
I believe your Husband was telling the truth when he said he was scared. I also believe he is staying away from the people he loves because he doesn't believe he is in control of himself in the state he was or is in. I do not believe he is seeking attention when he asks about a weapon. Statistics prove that the number one method of suicide in men is a gunshot to the head. If his episode lasts long enough and he doesn't get help, if he is talking about getting a weapon that could be his ticket out.
I am a female but I have felt the same way.You feel like a burden to others,and in some cases a danger. If he is not hospitalized he cannot be stabalized on meds.He also has to be reminded how he felt the last episode to keep him on the meds because as he feels better he will want to quit his meds. Good Luck & Best to you.
It sounds like it could be bipolar disorder, which for some reason episodes do seem to occur more often around spring time. It was really hard when my husband was making the same 'suicide ideation' threats to me, I was angry and thought he was being manipulative. It was my mother that got him to the doctors which resulted in his diagnosis and hospitalisation. If my mum wasn't there and I ignored him, things could have got a lot worse. You could quite easily ignore him, seeing as he has cut all ties from you and your life, at the same time, if he is unwell, its simply not him in his right mind making these decisions and he needs help. And if he is not bipolar, or suffering from any kind of mental illness, you can at least have clarification. You can live with yourself if you only but try. Best of luck.
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Thank you for your reply. I guess my concern is not when he is feeling well but when he becomes depressed again. Being that he is too far away for anyone to know his well being concerns everyone. He has tried hurting himself in the past.I can only hope he will eventually want help but do you think with him being so far away something needs to happen or if for whatever reason I get a phone call would that be sufficient enough to call the police. I've called a mental health crisis center already before he left when he was severely depressed and talking about feeling hopeless and scared, unfortunately he has to seek help himself and as far as calling 911 unless he was trying to hurt himself at that moment there was nothing i could do. I guess I was looking for answers also on how to talk to him when he asks for help yet still wont go get it. I feel a little helpless for him but god has been wonderful to me thus far i will continue to pray.i just would like to see him get better for himself and our daughter because he truly is a good person when he's feeling clear.