Am I helping or making it worse?
I believe my boyfriend is bipolar and/or schizophrenic. I have 3 schizophrenics in my family so I have grown up around it and can identify some of the symptoms. We're trying to get medical assistance so he can get some treatment, but in the meantime, what's the best way to deal with him?
These episodes happen about once a week and can last for a few hours. He's paranoid. He thinks everyone, including me, is out to kill him or just keep him eternally unhappy. If I don't respond to his accusations it means I'm in on it, if I deny his accusations, it means I'm in on it. Sometimes he's up all night and sometimes he sleeps for 14 hours. He says he hears 100 voices at a time in his head and can't think straight. When he gets in those moods he doesn't want to be touched, but he doesn't want to be left alone. All I want to do is hold him when he gets depressed.
He had an episode last night and I only got an hour of sleep before work this morning. I don't feel like I helped him at all, but I felt like if I just would have gone to the spare bedroom to sleep I wouldn't be very supportive. Sometimes, I get frustrated and end up yelling at him or calling him an idiot for the ridiculous things he believes. I try to remind him that he doesn't feel this way all the time; that just a few hours ago he didn't think anyone was going to hurt him. Only when some outside stressor sets it off. Should I just leave him alone or sit by his side and listen to him all night, and possibly end up getting irritated come 5 in the morning and making matters worse?
He recognizes that he behaves this way and wants to get treatment and medication. When he's not in one of these moods he's one of the happiest people I've seen. He gets excited about cleaning the bathroom or cooking dinner. He says most of the time he doesn't remember the things that he says - he just sees light. I don't know what he's going through so it's hard for me to be understanding.
Jen my name is Jeff. In response to your question I personally spend alot of time on the couch. I know if im in her presense we are going to argue because she isn't going to stop.. It's hard not to argue back or try and reason with them it's not going to happen no matter if your right or wrong . To them your going to be wrong. We are still trying to get my wifes meds right . We are now 8 weeks into the meds and its been a long process . she just started another one today hope for better results, but it can make for long days and nites. most of hers is mania.. raging pissed raising hell all the above. Even the kids are trying to figure her out. They are 8 and 11. so you can only do so much before you hinder the process. im no pro but i try some days are better than others .. If I had a bad day and she has had one of hers i just want bury my haed in a hole. Someone with bp you have to be there shoulder to cry on and you have to be your own shoulder
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I am not a expert but someone who has a mental disorder and family members. I can Identify with the story I have read. The best help you can began to get anyone you love, is first, call someone perfessional that can aid him in the right direction. If you need more information, let me know.
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